what do you do, when your kids want money, but don't want to earn it?

Question

my darling little angels is always holding out their hands, but they don't want to earn it, by doing chores

Answer 1

My little angel is the same way. Always wants a new this or that, or money to go here or there. When it is time to do chores, it is not a pretty sight. "I'll do it later", "Why do I always have to do this?", "I am too tired" are some of the excuses that I get. I told my angel, the one with the crooked halo, that we all have jobs to do and if you don't work you don't get paid. This is not going over all that well, but in my book it has to be done. I came to the conclusion that my child just does not appreciate things, and expects to be given things. Now work must be done to get money, the more money, the more work that must be done. Good for you for seeing this as a concern, your angels are lucky to have someone that will teach them this valuable lesson now.

Answer 2

Tell them they can have $5 a week. After that, they have to earn it. Make a chore list, with a value beside each chore. More money for cleaning the bathroom, less for picking up their toys. Set a limit of how much they can make per week...maybe the most they can make is $5 extra per week. Obviously if the kids are older, they'll want more money for stuff. You can always just tell them that they're expected to do chores and the price is low because you shouldn't have to pay them to do it.

Answer 3

It's appropriate for children to recieve SOME pocket money simply for being a part of the family. But there should be some fixed amount, with more for older children. Any money they want beyond that should be earned, through chores, through good grades, or both. So they can either "save up" out of that small allowance or they can do without.

Answer 4

I believe the best talk show hosts who have financial programs say put them on salary, not an allowance or hand out. It prepares them for the real world - you want money, you must earn it. It might take a bit of transition time, but they'll probably get the hang of it. Don't make them "chores" - make them "jobs."

Answer 5

Don't give them any money until they do their chores. You have to teach them responsibility and that money is something you earn, not something you are given. If they are unwilling to do their chores, cut off their money supply until they see the light. If they complain about doing chores, have them get a part time job to really show them how money is earned.

Answer 6

I give my kids an allowance with no strings attached. They just get it on a certain day of the week. I expect them to help with house work and chores. It is a separate issue. When they run out of money they can borrow on next week's allowance but have to pay me back when they get paid. It worls pretty good.Understand?

Answer 7

my mom is constantly at battle over this with my brother/ except its not a battle because she just gives in. it irrittates me because im 16 and hardly ever get money and if i do, i do chores for it. now i understand because he is 11 and he is a boy which makes doing house work even less enjoyable. but my mom made me do chores when i was young and id say i have learned to work hard for what i want. im one of my only friends who are looking for jobs (id have one but i just turned 16 yesterday) the rest of them just get money handed to them.

it may be hard, but i think you should make them do chores. maybe not a whole lot of chores. like dont do the whhole "vacuum is 2 dollard, dishes are 2, taking out the trash is 2" but as long as you feel like they are putting in enough work i think you should pay them. if you just give into their little frowns, it'll continue the rest of their lives.

Answer 8

Holding out their hands huh? Just smack their hand and say "I just gave ya five!"

Honestly, just don' give it to them. Are you sure the chores aren't too difficult? Have you taught them to do the chore you wish them to do? Do you make them do the chore over, even when they tried their best? Maybe they feel the compensation isn't enough?

Answer 9

Give them some Monopoly money equal to what your salary is, then start telling them what your expenses are and take away that amount of money. Show them that you really don't have extra money to give them. Don't forget to include the amounts you need to put away for them to go to college.

Answer 10

tell them to get a job ...or start earning it by chores ..or else it their bad luck ...yo don't want them to grow up dependent on you all the time and feelling your responsible for all their needs throughout their lives