We have no place to stay after marriage. We bought a house recently but it only ready 2 years later. Should we just get married and rent a room while waiting or should we only get married after the house is ready? I wanted to be with him everyday and share our life but now we are not staying together and it's hard to do so by only seeing each other for 2 hours a day as both have to work. We always argued when we arrive at this topic as money is the important issue. Is marriage cost a lot of money? Marriage is when 2 persons love each other and committed into marriage. Why we have to consider money more than love?
2006-06-26 13:51:46 · 17 answers · asked by mida 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Just get married at the court house by the justice of the peace and it's not a lot of money for that.
2006-06-26 13:55:41 · answer #1 · answered by BbyGrl80 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm in a very similar situation:
Neither of us have any money for a place to live as we both live with our parents. (Yes we are a little old to be living with our parents but it just sorta happened that way.) Neither of us have a job. So your question touched my heart deeply.
At first I had told him that the most important thing was a beautiful simple wedding and a place for us to live after we got married. But recently we reached the decison that we want to get married regardless of the money issue. We know in our hearts that God will help us find a way to provide that which we need. And we know our parents reaction most likely won't be pleasant but we feel that our love can handle it.
And in answer to your other question a wedding does not have to cost a lot of money. It all depends on what you have dreamed of. My dream is a simple wedding in a garden or backyard with the reception in the same place with food being a part of our gift. I have family that can do video and pictures so our cost would be the license (not much in Michigan, just $25 but different states vary), our clothes, some added flowers, possibly tables and chairs (if I can't borrow some from family) and the honeymoon.
There is also the option of going to a Justice of Peace without all the added extras and then having a fun party afterwards so family feels included. (Justice of Peace in Michigan is $10.)
I understand the desire of wanting to be together as often as possible and I say that if you feel that you two can get through anything go for it! (Besides, there is never enough money.)
2006-06-27 01:12:11 · answer #2 · answered by wenlovesgod 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when 2 people are in love, they accept each other inspite and despite of internal and external factors. and when finally, the decision is made to tie the knot, they chose to embrace the joys of marriage as well as the consequences and trials that come with it.
my boyfriend and i have been together for 6 years already. we are so much in love and we really want to settle down already. the problem is, we still have no earnings to start a family and live a whole new life on our own.
it may be true that sometimes money can be an issue when it comes to marriage but it should not be "THE" issue. try to work things out financially and seek for greener pasture if that still does not work so as to make both ends meet. if you can wait for another two more years until your house is finished, then why not? but if you think you both can't wait that long no more, then you can always have a simple yet solemn wedding. you don't need a extravagant one.
life is rough. life is difficult if you're not financially stable but life would not be as colorful and exciting as it is now if you don't have each other. right? communicate. understand one another. listen to each other. that's what you have each other for -- to face the world and overcome trials together. as long as you both know that you have each other for love and support, man, i don't think you should let anything make you fall apart. only a few lucky people have found true love and you should not make money ruin what you have coz it's not worth it.
2006-06-26 21:57:33 · answer #3 · answered by fire & ice 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He probaly feels like has to be the provider and he isn't a man until he can do that for you.
Patience is what you both need...money is always an issue - we all need it...love is what counts though...
I think you definately need to be together....instead of renting and wasting money on that can't you just move into together where ever you are staying now?
If you are ready to marry do it now but if you want the house to be like a gift to you both after your special day then wait till its ready.
2006-06-26 20:57:11 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A marriage costs nothing but your emotions...the wedding can be as simple as paying $50 for the license and whatever the JP wants to perform the ceremony. Are you more interested in the wedding or the marriage - ask yourself that. And if money is so tight, why are you buying/building a house - could that be why money is so tight...priorities - and why is it up to him to make more money?
Think it all over carefully, many couples have started out with nothing but the love they both share for each oter and have bulit a lifetime filled with love and great memories - they are rich beyond means.
2006-06-26 20:57:44 · answer #5 · answered by auntb629 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
listen ask yourself if you love the guy if the answer is yes
then nothing else matters. u gotta understand that when and if you do marry him that ur not going to be with him 24/7 i leave
for work at 630 am and get home at 600pm from 600pm
till 800pm i sit with her thru supper and a show or two
and she goes to bed.i make 9.00 hr and do this 6 days a week
she is my second wife and we are average americans
living paycheck to paycheck.virtually 3 weeks away at anytime
from being homeless.BUT>>>>>> i am happier with her thru all
the fights about money and not afording to go anywhere.
than when i was married to my first wife and lived in a nice house
with all kinds of money.we always say to eachother
that someday we are going to look back and smile.
and so should u
2006-06-26 21:07:38 · answer #6 · answered by Steven M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You bought a house together? How? With what money? When it comes down to it, we do the things we want to do, regardless of the amount of time it takes. If he wanted to marry you, he'd work with you, saving little by little until you could have the ceremony. Someone who won't even plan is not worth your time. Get your money back from the house (somehow) and move on.
2006-06-26 20:57:04 · answer #7 · answered by jandracu 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Would you miss being with this guy if you had lots of money but not him? Money is not everything. Myself, I'd go for the guy and get married. You may never have lots of money but you would have happiness with each other and that's something you can't buy.
2006-06-26 21:00:18 · answer #8 · answered by cynjo59 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that if you love him go along and marry him 'cause it doesn't matter if he has money or not . If you love him spend the rest of your lives together! If you need help with the money talk to your parents and ask them to help you until' you get back on your feet.
2006-06-26 20:59:05 · answer #9 · answered by PANDA 5 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Money is the bearer of bad news.. but don't let it ruin things for you. My fiance and I aren't as financially sound as we'd like to be, but we are still getting married in 2 months. We are also going to be residing with my parents while we remodel. Heck, if we all married for money, a lot of us wouldn't even make it the altar.. :)
2006-06-26 23:43:06 · answer #10 · answered by Ms. Princess 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋