Since he has been here, there is Nothing that I can do right, he is perfect in all ways, or so he thinks! I have a LOT of little things that bother me about him as well, should I start picking him apart too?
2006-06-26 13:50:13 · 7 answers · asked by screwedover1motime 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Starting a feud prob won't help. Try a calm conversation that hopefully helps him understand that everyone is annoying to some degree and you try to let things go when it comes to his behaviour. He prob doesn't see it at this point.
2006-06-26 13:57:56 · answer #1 · answered by daisy519 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Surprise! You have learned that the idealized person you loved was not the whole person. One never really knows a person without having lived with them, seen their quirks and habits, their emotional states, etc., first hand. Now you know.
Here's the problem: When two people have spent time intentionally getting to know one another, and have tested their love for each other to make sure it's more than infatuation, they may decide they are ready for marriage. If the couple actually view marriage as a lifetime commitment (or a covenant), it can be much easier to work through the quirky individual habits, etc. once they are living under the same roof. Without this type of commitment made outside their emotional "love" affair, a couple doesn't necessarily have a reason to endure the process of learning each other's very personal selves.
In other words, if you and your man are actually committed to being together for life, you will find ways to work out your individual oddities. The commitment to be together will outweigh the discomfort to which you are trying to adjust. Without this type of commitment, neither of you has a reason to tolerate the other's individuality, or to stay in the relationship when the other person becomes annoying.
2006-06-26 14:00:33 · answer #2 · answered by nickdmd 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry; I shouldn't be chuckling like I am. I just can't help it. It just sounds so typical. People are so much fun to be around, until you have to spend so much time with them!
I'm not really sure what else to say, because I'm not a love expert or anything. But I do wonder if you guys moved in together a bit soon in your relationship, before you really got to know each other. Perhaps stayed a few nights at each other's place a few times just for little tests..hehe
2006-06-26 13:53:53 · answer #3 · answered by merlin_steele 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Picking at him won't make the situation any better. Just wondering how long you were dating before he moved in... and why you never noticed any of his annoying habits before.... I guess you need to talk over a few things or bite your tongue
2006-06-26 14:08:04 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is not on the lease, I suggest you split back into 2 seperate places. If he is on the lease, how do you feel about moving and subletting? Take a few steps back and try again...slowly.
2006-06-26 13:53:50 · answer #5 · answered by jandracu 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
distance makes the heart grow fonder.Now ur there no secrets
2006-06-26 13:53:42 · answer #6 · answered by Hea Dude ! 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because you never really knew him until now.
2006-06-26 14:01:37 · answer #7 · answered by tiger_skratch 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋