My recent ex recently told me that she is in love with me. and im in love with her. we were going to get back together eventually but I found out she had sex with another guy within the 2 weeks we have been apart. She told me "sex is sex" that there was no emotion attached to him and shes saying that since shes single she can do what she wants and that she didnt do it to hurt me. show am i supposed to make her see that it was wrong for her to do that? and I quote from her IM to me: "i see your upset, and i know you are.. but, i dont see why you are so upset when it shouldnt matter what i did cause like i said i know where my heart is, i know what i feel... i dont have any feelings like that for him, it was just.. i guess easiest way to put it is i was doin what i wanted to do" what do you think ???
2006-06-26 13:48:03 · 14 answers · asked by william5000forever 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Simple...Ditch HER!!! I WAS your Ex in the past. Sex isn't just SEX she was opening her legs to someone else! I learned my lesson never to be that person...REVENGEFUL! Revenge sex doen't help anyone in the end and nor will it help your relationship...you will always have it in the back of your mind. A relationship takes more than LOVE it needs EMOTION!
2006-06-26 13:57:35 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's right, what she did after you two broke up is her business. If she had sex with a different guy every night, that's her biz. You have no right to judge her for that, if y'all were not together. She wasn't cheating on you, she was a 'free agent' and chose to enjoy herself with someone else. You are jealous and need to get over that if you ever hope to reconcile with her...but then, why DO you want to reconcile? Couples usually break up for a reason...what ended the relationship in the first place, and do you have good reason to believe that will not be an issue this time around? More often than not, 2nd tries do not work...but sometimes they do...if it's going to work for you two though, you're going to have to stop thinking you have any say in her life when the two of you are not dating (sharing your lives).
2006-06-26 20:53:26 · answer #2 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if you two were on a break, you need to clarify that when you two are going to go on a break that you two can either date other people OR just have time apart from each other but not seeing other people. I think she saw it as seeing other people so she went and did her thing. I'm sure this could be very upsetting to you but you first needed to clarify with her that it was a break from one of those two options.
2006-06-26 20:53:43 · answer #3 · answered by MedStudent 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly i feel that when a person loves you he will not go and hook up with another guy and sleep with him, even though you are not together. If she loved you, truly in my opinion she would of keep her panties on and go look for you and tell you i love you. I honestly feel she want you but then again she wants to have fun because she sleep with some other guy who she has no feelings for. How can she do that, like that when she loves you??? Isn't it when you are in love you feel no need to look for another guy and screwing him and then coming back to you and saying i love you, ... what do i think? i think she is greedy and wants you and freedom... but yeah i am not you only you can decide what is the best for you...GOOD LUCK.
2006-06-26 21:01:39 · answer #4 · answered by jen. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The key part is she has no empathy for your pain. Whether she slept with somebody is less important than her inability to see your side of the issue.
This is a bad sign.
Married a woman who announced 3 years into the marriage she never wanted to have kids - even though it was my life long dream.
Her response never included the words 'I'm sorry for the hurt i've caused you'
2006-07-10 17:08:46 · answer #5 · answered by EpiscopalSingles 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did she tell you abt it or did you find out some other way? That might help you tell if she's the cheating kind. But if you were broken up, was it really wrong? Kind of reminds me of Ross and Rachael on Friends--ended up wishing they would just get back together :-)
2006-06-26 20:52:03 · answer #6 · answered by daisy519 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you have absolutely no right to be mad at her. she didn't cheat on you. you are just mad because she got some. you guys were broken up during that time so she was free to do whatever she wanted and so were you. it's not her fault that she took advantage of that time and you didn't. you guys didn't even know you were going to get back together. i understand why you are upset, but you are wrong for this because she didn't do anything wrong.
2006-06-26 20:52:23 · answer #7 · answered by Truth Hurts 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok first off drop her if she kknew where her heart was she woulnt be out haveing no sex with ne 1 sex aint jus sex if ur in love with someone else drop her its jus a set up to break ur heart
2006-06-26 20:52:28 · answer #8 · answered by kristi h 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
But clearly you and her weren't dating when she did sleep with the other guy.
Depends one what kind of girl you want to date! It's your choice because you're the one who will have to live with the decision you make.
2006-06-26 20:52:19 · answer #9 · answered by chariot804 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You were separated during that time, were you not??? What did you during that time??? Sit alone, by yourself??? Probably not!!! If you still care for one another, then you have to start over from square one. Good Luck!!!
2006-06-26 20:53:01 · answer #10 · answered by winona e 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋