Does anybody know why it is harder to find a guy to date when you and your ex bf just broke up?

Answer 1

Its probably not a great idea to jump right back into a relationship when you just got out of one. Take a step back for a while and give yourself time to think and truly decide what you want as well as need out of a guy for a healthy relationship. The rest will fall in your lap when you're ready.

Answer 2

Because you're looking probably. You stand a better chance of meeting someone who'll make a good partner when you are trying to FIND them...let Life just cause your paths to cross. In the mean time, make sure you are 100% over your ex and any issues/baggage have been dealt with. Nobody's going to want to be your "rebound guy" and you did say you "just broke up" with your ex. Take some time to rediscover who you are as a single person, and evaluate your recent relationship and what you learned from it. You'll be a better partner for it.

Answer 3

There could be a couple of reasons- if you are looking in the same circle of friends you shared with your ex boyfriend, possible dates could be watching and waiting to see if you two return to being a couple. Guys might not want to step on their friends toes by dating someone you were both friends with. Then, too, it could be hard to find someone else because you might be mentally comparing every prospect to your ex. Move out of your comfort zone a little, go somewhere new, do something new, meet new people and you'll expand your opportunities for potential date prospects.

Answer 4

coz when u broke up with a bf u r just seeking a sort of one night stand relationship just to hear the romantic words u used to hear , to go out and forget all about the previous guy BUT u should give urself some time , life isn't a competition where u should always be committed , it isn't a shame to be single so don't rush in dates , give urself a time to pick so that u won't be hurt ...

Answer 5

Because you are holding everyone up to your ex standards. If you just broke up w. a bf why are you lookin for a new one? You need time alone & get back in the social pool.

Answer 6

Guys are annoying like that. They always want you when they can't have you!! Trust me, I had liked this guy since 7th grade!! And now I am a sophmore in college. I always tried and tried to date him. However, a half a year into my freshman year of college, he decided to be stupid. I came home for winter break. I had got myself a nice, committed, respectful guy, that actually loved me for me!! So, I lost my virginity to him. We'll the guy that I had liked since 7th grade, all of a sudden found it the perfect time (after all of these years!!) to be stupid to me and ask me out in the most immature way in the entire world. He would say things like "We'll if you dating me we could go tanning together, and you could smoke pot with me and my dad, and oh please let me f*** you in the a**, your boyfreind is ugly anyway." I was soooo pissed off at him!!! I know exactly what you are going through!! I mean after all of this f***ing time, where I thought he were my first love, he treats me like s*** and freak'in act like everything that I've never ever wanted. Oh we'll. I've got my man now!! Oh, see, that just goes to prove, a good guy, is out there, and he's not going to date you based on that your taken!! It takes time, but you've just got to be patient. And don't look for him at the bar!! Look for him in places like the grocery store in the cream cheese section, for real!!

Answer 7

To me it is harder because you still with him but i think your variety goes down because you are searching for someone to measure up to him. Just keep an open mind, and remember there is always someone out there who will love you no matter what.Good Luck finding your special someone!

Answer 8

b/c you JUST BROKE UP. people need to take time to heal and make peace with their last relationship, before moving on. if you don't, then you could end up getting involved in another bad relationship. take your time, go out with friends and do things you enjoy. a new man will come along in no time... men want women who are happy and comfortable being themselves... not a woman who is depressed and has baggage.

Answer 9

Because you are on the rebound. And believe it or not, men can tell. You are not aware you are showing it, but you're still a little upset over it. I've been there, trust me. It will get easier with time. Good luck!!!

Answer 10

your standards might be higher since youve had a bf not so long ago, your not over your bf yet so inside you dont want to date anyone else, or you couldve just let your appearance go since you were already dating someone, which i doubt that you would let that happen :)