I have risen above a lot of negative crap in my life, to become a creative, giving, super diverse and very loving person...thing is I'm still fearful in relationships ... (bad father issues: real one killed himself, step-dad was abusive) I never turned to drugs or alchohol but became a recognised athlete and performer instead.The only place I can work thru this with authenticity is IN a relationship tho...and I unfortunately come with some baggage, Do I have to be perfectly healed before it's realistic to accept another love into my life?
2006-06-26 13:39:44 · 4 answers · asked by paradox69 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I've been through the same exact thing. My father killed himself when I was kid and my step dad was abusive. I don't think anything you can do like therapy and 'resolving' it with your step dad can make it better or make you feel any relief. What happened, happened, there's nothing he could say to make it better. As far as relationships go, every one DOES have baggage. You're going to be waiting awhile, maybe forever if you have to be 'perfectly healed', some things just don't heal. A relationship is about working together to get past them and starting over together. No matter what anyone says, it's always better to have someone than to go through it alone. Good luck.
2006-06-26 14:17:05 · answer #1 · answered by Milo 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No. Should you find the right mate that will accept you as you are that person will help you heal a lot better than by yourself. Don't hide the important stuff from that special person and the small stuff will take care of itself as the relationship develops.
2006-06-26 20:55:40 · answer #2 · answered by boilermakersnoopy433 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think working on two..which is what you do in a relationship..can get in the way of working on one..which is what you need to do..everyone has baggage..and I'm not saying force yourself to be alone..if you come across someone you really like..(Not if someone comes across you and your not ready).feel that out. while working on yourself..therapy..meditation and books are good..resolving issues with your step father...omg..sweetie you do not know how freeing that could be to resolve that...its hard though..get some support..friends.family.its hard really hard..but its worth it to come out the other side...light as a feather...hope i help in some way..
2006-06-26 20:49:07 · answer #3 · answered by MotherNature 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well...just be careful if you get too close to the newest person too quickly and he isnt takin it as seriously as you you will more likely than not get hurt...and trust me! that really sucks!!! best wishes...
2006-06-26 20:44:43 · answer #4 · answered by Helion R 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋