My question is what should I do and what would you do?My b/f went to 2 parties and the 1st one I had to wait in the hot car 45 min.The 2cnd one I had to wait in his room almost 2hrs;no tv or radio and he told me not to look out the window.His freind tried to rape me and now my b/f says he wants to wait till he gets his own apt. for me to come back over..He has no job or money so this could be a while.I told him he just shouldn't leave me alone.He didn't say or do anything to the guy.I only get to see him 1or2 times a week because of our scheduals.I don't like being made to stay in his room,boring.I came to see him.Sorry if too long.What should I do and what would you do. We have been togather almost 7yrs. and the past year he's changed more.He likes to drink.Thanks to you all cause you all give good advice.
2006-06-26 13:39:43 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He says the reason he don't want me to go to parties or look out the window is because he says I'm to hot and guys will like me.I did tell him I don't want anyone else.I'm not flirty,I'm shy and timid.
2006-06-26 13:55:06 · update #1
Put short and sweet, leave him. He is a jackass that does not care about being iwth you. If he went to two parties and left you behind, that should have said something right there. And if he lacked the nuts, or did not believe you enough, to do something about his friend, he is not worthy of being in a relationship, in fact, he isn't worthy of calling himself a man.
2006-06-26 13:51:39 · answer #1 · answered by Rob K 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ms. breanna do you have to be hit over the head with a brick before you see that this relationship if you can call it that should be stopped. it may be a blessing you only see him 1 or2 times a week. did you report the attempted rape. let me tell you what i would do. first i will not sit in the car for 45 min while he parties i will also not sit in his room for 2 hrs and not look out of the window because he said so. No job, no consideration for me, didnt stand up for me against the guy who tried to rape me. Nope this is going no where real fast. you need to leave skid marks on the floor going out of the door. then drop by rape crisis and get some counseling has a person who has been molested as a child that is the best place to go. how old are you.
2006-06-26 20:49:20 · answer #2 · answered by 5150 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Anyone that would put you in a situation that could harm you (ie possible rape) isn't someone you should spend time with. It sounds to me like your friend is more concerned with themselves and their "habits" then they are with you. The first thing you should do is stop waiting around for this person. You're much better than that. There are friends that want you to come on inside with them, and those are the people you should be with. The second thing is tell this loser that until he cleans up his act, you don't want anything to do with him. If he's really your friend he should care that you almost got hurt by someone he knows. And he should never NEVER want you to be in that position again. The last thing you need to do, and probably the most important, is stop putting yourself in positions that could cause you harm. Don't wait out in a car, and/or in a room where you can't move or look out the window. If someone told me not to look out the window I don't have to wait around for the creepy music to start playing, I'm already hightailing it out of there, and you should too.
2006-06-26 20:52:05 · answer #3 · answered by tinydancer42001 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been in simaler situations.He is probably on drugs( corny as that sounds) if he has changed so much in the past year. This relationship is NOT good for your health. Physical mental or emotional. It will be hard to let go but you should deffinatlly leave him. I assume you love him? If so ask yourself if you love HIM or the guy you thought he was/ used to be.Your answer will surprise you. Honestly. If you need a support person e-mail me @ porkchop_sena........at yahoo of course.
2006-06-26 20:55:16 · answer #4 · answered by porkchop_sena 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
listen to yourself.... you know what you want to do... you know what you have to do... it sounds like you need a break... some time to look at what you have.... and what you could have... if you have been together for seven years you should be able to relize if you love the person and if you think that the relationship will go any farther than boyfriend girlfriend.... you have been toggether longer than some in marrage... so ... sit down... drink a glass of wine... talk to someone you care about(not your boyfriend) and talk .... release all the things you hate... and all the things you love... and ask yourself ... is it worth it... where will "this" take me...where will "we" be...
i change my answer... listen to the first person... F that A
2006-06-26 20:48:45 · answer #5 · answered by little dazed 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is simple Breanna ... end this relationship no matter how hard that may be and completely remove yourself from his life. This young man has serious issues and if all you say is true I would be seriously concerned for your physical well being as much as your emotional happiness. No one dererves to be treated the way he has treated you and the lack of respect signifies his true colors.
2006-06-26 20:44:18 · answer #6 · answered by fun_guy_otown 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1st i would chew his *** for not doin anything to the guy, because that showed me that he really didnt care that much for me. 2nd i would give him an ultimatum that either u spend time 2gether and make it a good time, or u guys should see other people. i know that i would not want to try to spend time with my boyfriend and not really even see him, and now because of his inconsideration u cant come over till he has his own place. i think he just wants to do things u wouldnt approve of.
2006-06-26 20:49:08 · answer #7 · answered by luvly_lady3426 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i think he gots another girl. and his friend tried to rape u. u should have beat the h@@#* out of him. what i will do is ask him u dont want me around anymore if he don't say nothing find u another man and leave him alone cuz u have the rest of ur life ahead of u and u don't need to waste ur time on him. anything else e-mail me at newyorkshorty_9595@yahoo.com and i will help u
2006-06-26 23:28:52 · answer #8 · answered by newyorkshorty_9595 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave him, cause sometime or another that guy will reappear again (the one that tried to rape you) If he realy liked you he wouldn't have you waiting for him more than once for such a long time...
2006-06-26 20:51:28 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I f he doesn't care that his friend tried to rape you why do you even care about being with him, he sounds abusive leaving you in a hot car etc. GET OUT GET OUT GET OUt
2006-06-26 20:44:57 · answer #10 · answered by piawom420 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋