My boyfriend Thomas, has been hanging with Nonchristians...and they have been influencing him in a bad way. Those friends, dont have CHrist. They sleep around, Curse, have anger problems, and treat woman bad. He tells me that his friends are true friends, and do everything for him. Ever since, those friends have been backstabbing, talking behind his back, calling him names, and etc. I never told him cause I cared for him, but Now im getting upset, cause their doing it more.
I often told him, to find out for himself...that theyll be bad friends. but he never listened.
Should I tell him? I dunno waht to do. If i tell he'll just yell at me, and ill get blamed...but i want him to realize who his true friends are.
2006-06-26 13:39:24 · 22 answers · asked by inthisskin22x 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
What you need to bring to his attention is the fact that they're influencing him in a bad way. He can be friends with a non-christian, but he should be salt and light to them. In other words, he should be influencing them. As for them talking about him, let that slide. They're not saved, so they're acting like it. That's to be expected. The problem is if your boyfriend is acting like he's not saved.
2006-06-26 13:51:09 · answer #1 · answered by luckyme 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
A true friend will stand beside him. but you don't have to be his boy friend if he continues this behavior. Try to let him find out that kind of behavior is always self destructive. Start by telling him that you are afraid that if he keeps hanging around those people you will not be able to be his girlfriend any more. And that should be a true statement as he may get their morals and you will have to let him go because of that.
2006-06-26 20:49:41 · answer #2 · answered by saintrose 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do what you must. It seems like your boyfriend has just been hanging around a bad crowd. Not all non-Christians are like that though. I know lots of pagans that follow the letter of the law and lead good lives. Don't be so quick to judge, my dear.
Besides, The Swordsmith hit the nail on the head.
2006-06-26 20:46:54 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that religion or no, these people are using him and treating him badly. Normally, religion is the last thing I let stand in the way of relationships. I am an atheist and my girlfriend is a wiccan and we get along splendidly. However, bad people are bad people.
2006-06-26 20:44:32 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The bible states, "bad associations spoil useful habits". Is it worth being with someone who doesn't respect you now and learn about it when it's too late? If he can't listen to you now, then maybe he's not worth being with. You want someone who respects your opinion, your feelings and your thoughts. He has the right to not want to do what you say, but he should listen to your concerns first. If he yells at you, then he's not the one you want to be with. You need someone who will treat you with dignity and respect and love. If he hangs out too much with those guys, he could become just like them and maybe abuse you.
2006-06-26 21:04:48 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, guys make fun of each other all the time, it's just what we do.
Second off, ALL of them are nonchristians? I doubt that, unless he has like one or two friends. Odds are pretty low for that, way better that most or all are Christians.
Don't hate somebody because of their beliefs, it makes Jesus cry.
2006-06-26 20:48:29 · answer #6 · answered by Joe Shmoe 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
His problem is not on the religious issue but a peer pressure issue. If it bothers you so much then just tell him Hasta lavista baby. He is obviously looking for some excitement that you do not provide. His loss.
2006-06-26 20:48:43 · answer #7 · answered by ldyrhiannon 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him, for his own good. If he doesn't find out now, he will later. But the consequences of him hanging out with these people might lead him to even greater sin and danger.
2006-06-26 20:51:15 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is unfortunate that your boyfriend is in the world, but you have to remember that you are no better than he is and that he is entitled to live his life as he sees fit. all i can tell you is pray for him,don,t try to push your religon on him cause as much as you would love to see him do good it is ultimately his decision to make that call. last but not least as long as he has breath in his body he will still be loved by God and that he will have a chance at choosing who it is he is willing to worship,God,the streets,friends,the world...
2006-06-26 20:58:06 · answer #9 · answered by 0samaria s 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So then, my beloved, even as ye have always obeyed, not as in my presence only, but now much more in my absence, work out your own salvation with fear and trembling;
Some lessons are meant to be learned alone.
2006-06-26 20:52:21 · answer #10 · answered by poeticbloodlines 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋