Should I propose? For the females?

Question

I was dating a girl for a long time. We are best friends and I mean the world to her. I love her with all my heart and would die for her in an instant. We are currently not dating, because of my choice of being in the Marines, but she refuses to see anyone and cries all the time that she is worried I will never go back to her. She is gorgeous and we never argue and talk everything out. I am completely open and tell her what I do, who I go on dates with and what happens on the dates. I will be going to Okinawaw, Japan in August and was wondering if I should propose. I have prayed a lot about lust and I am trying to not lust after other woman but it will be hard for 2 years w/out her. I am scared to death to lose her but I would hate myself more and for the rest of my life if I ever did anything to hurt her. What should I do? And does anyone know any ways to not lust besides praying?

Answer 1

Yes you should I think that would be the best thing for you to do GOOD LUCK

Answer 2

Praying is a very good start. Did she break up with you because she couldn't handle the marine & distance thing? How long is a 'long' time? Think long and hard. Don't propose to someone just because you don't want to lose them. You don't marry someone just to keep them. I think you should call her up, sit her down and talk about how both of you feel. It is important that she is as willing as you are to keep a long - distance relationship.

Without knowledge of how both of you truly feel and how long you've been together I can't say too much. However, I know a lot of marines who get married young quickly and divorce just as fast. Why?
1. They are presssured by the idea that they will die away from home so I must marry just in case...
2. They are lonely and romanticize the idea of a strong woman at home writing letters and missing them.
3. They want married housing, separation fees, benefits etc

Assuming you want her for none of the above, i think you should just talk to her. If you feel your relationship is at the point of marriage then do it. If you do can she go to Japan with you? If not, maybe you should get engaged or just date for those two years.

About not lusting, I know it is hard for marines because you are sounded by other marines who love to lust over women, sleep around, watch lots of porn etc... You will just have to
1.not only make the conscious effort to not lust,
2.but pray, keep friends who will hold you accountable
3.and keep yourself away from bad situations - wild parties, clubs, getting drunk with members of the opposite sex etc

Who knows, maybe two years of fidelity will let you know for sure how you feel and prove yourself to her

Answer 3

If you love her that much then DON'T LET HER GO! You will kick yourself years from now if you don't ask her and you never know. The worst that will happen is she says no and you move on, and you will, but it is better to know than wonder years later.
And to prevent the lust, just think about how she would feel if you messed around, and how you would feel if she messed around on you. If you really are in love with her then your lust won't be so bad. Don't short yourself on what could be the love of your life. Good Luck!

Answer 4

Humm well being the wife of a U.S Airforce soldier my heart goes out to you both. Did you join AFTER meeting her or before? That I think makes a big difference.

I don't think you should propose yet, that isn't gonna solve anything. Plus, you say you still date other people?~?~!? I mean so what if you share everything with her (I don't mean that in a smart way either), but think about it.....
If you truly believe with all your heart that you love her enough to marry her, that SHE is the one for you, the one you want to share your life with,,, then why in the world are you going out on dates????
"Every Mans Battle" excellent book for you or any man. And I hate to say....
Prayer is the only way... prayer and your effort. Prayer works, but it always gives you the power to make your own choice. No one can make it for you, and there is no "easy/fast" way for it to happen.
2 years is a long time to be apart, but if you think you can't be gone from her for 2 years without being in relations with someone, then DON'T get married.

I had a short engagement, (few months), I knew he was in the service, but it's still hard. He left for a 6 month deployment a week after our wedding. TOUGH.
But I knew when accepted his proposal that I too was making a commitment to the Air Force.

Don't rush your decision, but continue to talk to her. You need to share your needs and expectations for marriage BEFORE you go on your deployment.

Stay strong
Pray hard

God Bless

Answer 5

Go ahead and propose. Perhaps she can come live in Japan too and your lust problem will be over. However, be prepared. She may not want you the way you want her and may say no. Either answer gives you a long awaited solution. Good Luck and may God bless your actions.

Answer 6

well first off how not to lust if your truly in love with this gurl u should have no problem not wanting other females hard yes buit u say ur madly in love and would die for her but do u really mean if ur ******* someone else so if u can handle not being with ne 1 else then yes propose let her know u really love her

Answer 7

Yes!!You already have said how much you both love each other and are best friends.You will never find anything better than what you have now.Marry her and take her with you.Then you have your wife everyday to love you and be with you and you never have to worry about other women!!Good luck!

Answer 8

i think if u both feel that way, then YES go for it. i think that u both Will be happy. please dont let her get away, because u might regret it for the rest of ur life, that u let ur love go.