I've been dating my boyfriend for some months after we had both been single for a year. It was going fantastically well and I was trying my best to be unpressurising as he said he wanted to take it VERY slow. We enjoy each other's company a great deal and both find each other physically attractive.
However, I have recently found myself 'falling' for him and I know that if he knew this, it would freak him out. He has a low sex drive (opposite to me) and perhaps, self-esteem/confidence issues. I have been very patient with him as I think he is worth the effort.
He recently told me that he is worried that the 'spark' does not exist between us and asked me, considering we get along so well and like each other immensely, why hasn't it happened yet/will it ever happen.
I am quite happy to give it some more time. He cried at the mention of breaking up. I ultimately do not want a relationship that lacks that 'special something'. Shall I just wait? For how long?
2006-06-26 12:54:59 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You DO have a special relationship with him. Just not the kind you want.
He loves you a lot as a best friend. At this point, he just doesn't feel that spark, that YOU feel.
MANY best friends of the opposite sex have gone on to be lovers, later on.
Just wait. It COULD happen.
It happened to me!
In the meantime, date other guys.
It's fun. It's healthy and it might even make him a little jealous.
If THAT happened, he would realize, that his feelings for you run deeper than he originally thought.
2006-06-26 13:02:26 · answer #1 · answered by Molly 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There isn''t waiting for a "spark". It's either there, or it's not there. One person can feel it while the other doesn't and it can't be forced. Not to hurt your feelings, but maybe he is just used to being with you like a security thing and that it why he cried. If he said that he doesn't fell a "spark", then you should just move on, rather than set youself up for more heartache.
2006-06-26 13:00:29 · answer #2 · answered by lc 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what you should do is tell him that you are willing to wait if he is willing to go see someone with you so that they can help him figure out why he is holding back, let him know that he has your support threw it all and that you are willing to take it slow but that it is for the best that it gets figured out before you ever get married or it will cause lots of problems in the marriage and you dont want that. be sincere about everything you tell him and just plain out let him know something needs to be done but that he has your support! good luck, realy, i hope you fix this!
2006-06-26 13:01:12 · answer #3 · answered by Blonds Rock 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it really depends.... if he takes it to slowly... then nothing will ever happen. Don't be to pushy but don't NOT do anything. Try to subtly edge the relationship along. Best wishes
2006-06-26 12:59:24 · answer #4 · answered by nobody is home 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
GIRL CAN YOU DEAL WITH HIS LOW SEX DRIVE ?
HE MIGHT BE IN THE CLOSET!!
2006-06-26 12:59:50 · answer #5 · answered by leo29sexy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
listen dear
if u love him be pationt with him
2006-06-26 12:59:21 · answer #6 · answered by navy_storm 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋