Why is it that i cant keep a boy friend for more than two or three datys?

Question

i've only had two boy friends and im 15 and we were boy friend girl friend for at least 2 or 3 days. My first boyfriend and i lasted less than 24 hours, then he asked me out a month later that last at least a week, and then he asked me out again and that lasted less than 24 hours again. My last boy friend and I lasted less than 7 hours. He gave me an excuse and i find it kind of cute but yet it wasnt, he told me that he didn't want to hurt my feelings. Is there anything I can do to stop these things from happening to me?

i am really physical. i try out for basketball, soccer, dance team, tennis, cheerleading, and swimming. I brush my teeth at least 3 times a day so please do not say its my breath. we've known each other long enough to know what ticks us off makes us happy or to know when we are in a bad or good mood. my fisrt ex tried to french me on the second day and i told him that we were moving to fast and that made him a little mad but he agreed until after he heard that his other ex was single so he broke up with me for her. the other never had a gf so i was his first. he asked me out and first he told me that he liked me since the day we met and then when he broke up with me he said he rushed into it and he didnt want to hurt my feelings.

Answer 1

First off, unless you are ready to get married, you are pushing yourself too hard. You seem to want a committed relationship, and these guys aren't there yet. If you ask somebody to be your boyfriend even before you date, then there no relationship, and that makes a break-up easy. A side note - it looks bad on you if you have too many boyfriends!

If you want a stable relationship with somebody, you need to know somebody before they are your boyfriend.

If you can talk with a guy, you have a few things (music, sports, hobbies) in common, you see each other in class, have a friend or two that you both know, then you have a possible relationship.

You see each other regularly, so you know what he's like in a good mood and a bad mood, whether he gets decent grades, whether his parents are like your parents. THEN, after a month or so, you might go out on a date or two. If that works out, then talk about being boyfriend/girlfriend.

By taking things slow, you miss out on short, bad relationships, but the more mature, steady relationships can grow nicely.

By the way, guys usually aren't mature enough for this until out of high school. That doesn't mean you should look for a college guy, that puts you in a position of being abuse or played with. But a lot of people put off dating until after hi school because too many people are too immature.

Answer 2

You are actually too young to be worrying about having a boyfriend. Yet to answer your question, which is my own personal opinion of course. I know nothing about you so I can't make a real judgment but this is what I have to say. You may be finding yourself attracted to boys that are not really attracted to you for one. The other is that boys and men, well, our first attraction is purely physical. After that, what determines whether a boy/man will want to continue to see a girl/woman is her personality. Without providing enough detailed information about yourself its hard to give you an honest opinion as to why you're going through this. Boys/men, if they are physically attracted to a girl/woman, they will come back. The reason they don't stick around after getting to know this person is because they have learned something or there is something that this person does or acts which will make them turn and walk away. That's the best answer I can give you with the information I have. Sorry.

Answer 3

You are a pond. They are birds. They will come and wet their beeks in your pond as long as your pond has water. Then they will fly away. Dry your pond, or at least hide the water. Let people know that they will have to work for whatever nurturing you are able to provide.
And sweetheart? You can't make an enemy in 24 hours, i doubt seriously that you can make a friend, or a boyfriend in this little time. Don't rush, be patient, go out and play. Love and misery, along with all the other pleasures and certainties in life will find you without you looking for it. It's how you handle this that defines your character.

I hope this answer just changed a life. Peace.

Answer 4

Give it time, you're only 15. Are you a good listener??? Or do you talk, talk, talk??? Just a suggestion, you need to be a good listener as well as put in some input as well. Guys are much more immature at this age anyway than girls. Worry about school for now and get a good education. All the best to you.

Answer 5

Hi city girl! Your fifteen don't worry about it. Those boys are just playing with your head. Don't get caught up with who likes who business. Don't start thinking that its your fault, its not! Boys at that age aren't mature enough to understand or want a serious relationship!

Answer 6

Because you are 15!!! Give yourself some air girl! You (and the guys) have lots of time to grow into mature (hopefully) adults. You cant seriously be expecting a serious relationship at this age? Trust me it is not you. There is nothing wrong with you. You are just not mature enough to have a serious relationship. Please talk to your mom or dad about this.

Answer 7

you can keep a boy for more than 15 years ok but that boy and you must know what you are doin not dat you will be after sex or any other adultry you may be showing him your love .. and dont ever show him how much you love him ok is ok since you are in higher instutution next thing for is just to fine job and preparing to get married ok
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Answer 8

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Answer 9

Those guys are probably just immature. It will probably happen to you less as you get older.

Answer 10

Try a different mouth wash.