This is a personal question but has anyone been raped before???

Question

I am asking because I have and I have flashbacks a lot it seems and it confuses me...

Thanks for everyones reply so far but I need someone who goes through flashbacks cuz I'm confused about them.

Answer 1

I did years ago when I was in high-school, I never reported it, like most girls I thought it was my fault. PLEASE report it, and know that it was not your fault. Good Luck.

Answer 2

i have a very opposite problem... i was molested when i was very young and my mind blocked it out. the only reasons i know i was molested are a)mother, other people that were around have told me and b)i have some serious emotional problems including but not limited to having a hard time trusting, getting REALLY emotionally attached once i think i can trust, and severe clincal depression for which i take two prescription drugs.

try hypnosis, that way you can deal with your flashbacks in a controlled environment and maybe be hypnotized to "block it out" i'm assuming that if the human mind can do this on its own, then hypnosis would probably have the same effect.

oh, and i understand about flashbacks, but they weren't quite as severe, like, reliving car crashes the next whole bunch of times you stop short... stuff like that.

Answer 3

Not raped, but, I've had guys be more aggressive than I wanted in the past, as I've gotten older and more mature emotionally, I've been able to stay out of these situations.
Be careful with flashbacks, alot of times they're just you thinking too much about a subject, or you've heard someone tell you that, etc.

Answer 4

i feel sorry for u. God helps u. i think the best thing to do to get rid of the flashbacks is for u to get busy as someone said and counseling. and i can't say u are or u r not responsible for what happened bc each case is diff than the other. sometimes girls give wrong signals sometimes it's just being in the wrong place at the wrong time. but i know it's one of the wrost things that can happen to a girl but u should take advantage of it and instead letting it break u it should make u stronger. and life is full of bad things but also full of good things that u must know how to enjoy.

Answer 5

Hi there. I am glad that you took a step and asked for help....I know it's not easy. I was raped 18 years ago and left nude in a park after I was beaten and cut up. I found out later that I was pregnant...I didn't know what to do because I was dating someone at the time and didn't know who the bay's father was...I was terrified, ashamed, alone, and just plain freaked out about it all. I chose to keep the child...I didn't know until the child was almost 3 years old (from a DNA test) that she was NOT my boyfriends and I was crushed to say the least!!! I looked at her everyday convincing myself that she looked just like my boyfriend....anyway....I STIll live with nightmares, flashbacks, and fear. She is 17 yrs old now...she looks ALOT like him and I have gone to therapy for MANY yeras to deal with it. It was NOT easy, but I truly believe things happen for a reason, thats there are no coincidences. God doesn't make junk.....remeber that and also remember it was NOT your fault! Good luck!

Answer 6

Yes I have and I understand the flashbacks. They are normal. How long has it been since the attack? Did you get treatment? Do you see a theripist?( there are some that specialize in rape) What part confuses you?

Answer 7

This really isn't a question to be posted for the world to see. Rape is a very delicate issue, and most people would want the right to keep it private. You should seek out a support group where you can find others that want to talk about the same kinds of things. The telephone book usually has listings of groups under selfhelp or consuling

Answer 8

You have been traumatized and that is with you for life. There is no cure, but there is something you can do. Post Traumatic Stress is not only for veterans from war, it can be anyone who has witnessed or been involved in a traumatic event.
Depression sets in and then denial and then flash back occur from time to time becasue you have to find the solution in your self to understand it completely and know why it happened. When you can understand that and your ready to deal with it professionally then you can do so by taking the first step in controlling these flash backs from re-occuring. Your a beautiful person and always will be. Say that to your self and be serious. Your strong and you need to build up your self esteem again.
Selfesteem=mean to have confidence in yourself and thatn means whatever you want to do in your life you can when you put your mind to it. believe in yourself.

Get a puppy to take care of and put your energy in that puppy. It will be your friend and will protect you when it gets big. Now you smile today and say to your self "I'm gonna be alright".:):):) Write me anytime okay..peace Al

Answer 9

You're not alone, but a lot of people don't like to talk about it.
Seeing a therapist would be a great idea. It will give you the chance to talk it out with somebody who's really going to listen and can offer you advice on how to cope.

Things will get better!

That which does not kill us, only makes us stronger!
Don't smother yourself in the pain, but grow and become a stronger person from all this.

Answer 10

Yes. I think the flash backs are a way of coping and dealing, trying to get over it . Have you ever talked to anyone about it? It was years before I could "get over" it. I talked to some people and got all the anger out finally. Still, all these years later certain things like someone holding me down, even my kids just playing around, will send a flash of fear thru me. We never completely get over it but it can make us stronger and wiser. You have to some how get past it. I wish I had gone to a support group after it happened. You need people who understand and support you. It will get better I promise.

Answer 11

You need to talk to someone. You can begin by calling :
Rape, Abuse, Incest, National Network (RAINN)
1-800-656-HOPE (1-800-656-4673)

You are asking a very personal question on an open forum. There could be legal issues associated with some answers. I sympathize with you because I have seen many people on tv talk about their pain regarding rape issues .... Good Luck.