2006-06-26 11:56:51 · 7 answers · asked by desperatlyseekingsomeonespecial 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Maybe I should have been a little clearer. The person is my mother. And we have lived together for the last 3yrs b/c of her health. My daughter is VERY attached to her and she is attached to my daughter as well. I love my mother, but we differ on how to raise MY children. She gets offended to easily. But for her health sakes she should not live alone. What does one do inthis situation?
2006-06-26 12:34:04 · update #1
Nature knows you can't have two queen bees in a hive, why are you trying to have two queen bees and a princess in a house?
Having worked with and taken care of several elderly people in my family I appreciate what you are going through.
Your plate is full and they are looking for ways to fill their days. Sometimes they are emotional vampires, sucking the life-blood out of you.
Then you feel guilty because you might not have them around much longer and what if???
Give yourself a break. Your mom could out live you.
Grandparents are very special and I think it is difficult for that relationship to be as special as it should be when everyone is under the same roof.
If you can afford it, get out. If you don't have siblings who can help you, hire someone else to clean your mom's place, help with personal hygiene, etc. Chances are she'll treat them nicer anyway. They're much less likely to be rude to a nurse's aide who wants to give them a bath than one of their children.
If there are siblings but perhaps they're out of town or unable to help for whatever reason, call a family meeting and agree that everyone has to do what they can, so either they can give time (which would give you a break) or money (which would enable you to hire someone to care for your mom) either way you win.
Hang in there. Call your local county health department and find out what services are available to your mom.
Good luck.
2006-06-26 13:34:56 · answer #1 · answered by pamspraises 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell them if they know anything about you at all, it's that they should know how much you value your privacy and sanity. Staying here with them is conflicting with that and it's time for you to go. You have to do what's best for you just like they have to do what's best for them. Sorry if that hurts their feelings but this is how it's going to be.
2006-06-26 19:13:40 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't; because the person will not accept or understand your reasoning. You simply need to do it and allow time to heal any and all wounds. Moving away is your only option so do it; you can't change your love one so change yourself and your surroundings.
2006-06-26 19:12:27 · answer #3 · answered by tesorotx 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I always go with the straight forward explanation, it works best. if you beat around the bush they get hurt, upset, or even offended. But that's the type of person i am.
2006-06-26 19:04:22 · answer #4 · answered by lawtre808 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Live away for a awhile. You'll find a way to talk to them as you find yourself.
2006-06-26 19:00:43 · answer #5 · answered by cudala 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a hard one....depends on if it's a family member or not.....those family members are hard to get rid of. :) I suppose the nicest way would be the whole "It's not you, it's me." or just be honest.
2006-06-26 19:05:53 · answer #6 · answered by Darcie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that you put it quite nicely in your question. honest and to the point.
good luck.
2006-06-26 18:59:55 · answer #7 · answered by tikiboy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋