I'm 16, and I just broke up with my boyfriend, because my friends and family thought was a total jerk. But, I don't feel that way at all! He is so sweet, and thoughtful, and has the best personality ever. My friend basically forced me to break up with him, saying that I WONT have any regrets. But, it's even too awkward to talk to him ever again, so it is making me really sad. I don't want to completely shut him out of my life, and I still want to be friends. I feel like I need him more than ever. What can I do to keep him in my life, just as a friend? I feel like when I am not talking to him, or with him, I am incomplete. Or is it even worth it being friends?
2006-06-26 11:28:16 · 19 answers · asked by aLyxoxo 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Think about the pros and cons. What was good about him? What was it that everybody disliked? Did he ever treat you badly or ignore you? Some one might have seen some red flags that you didn't see. You're still really young and are not reaady to make major decisions but also sometimes we must must make decisions that go against what other people say. Sit and think before you make any decisions. You're the one who has to live with them. Best of luck.
2006-06-26 11:35:54 · answer #1 · answered by reme_1 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
was it realy that important to listen to other people in the first place...who cares what other people think this is your life..you may only be 16 but you are just starting to find out how life is and whats it all about. call him and make admendments. say how much you have missed him and crave for his friendship. then you can work on being friends. if you didnt feel he was a jerk and he treated you nice then you should of stayed there with him..if you let people tell you what to do all your life and interfere then what kind of future will you have for your self..you will end up hating people and rebelling against people for this. make your own mind up..youll be better for it..and good luck..
2006-06-26 11:35:28 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you still want to be friends and that he means a lot to you even though you aren't together. I know at times friends and family mean well but at the end you are the person that's going to end up with him. Plus your 16 boys are going to come and go don't rush into a commitment just yet.
2006-06-26 11:40:43 · answer #3 · answered by dodgergirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To answer your last question, yes, yes it is. This same thing happened to me...my family and friends hated him though they didn't know him as I did. Talk to him about it...if he doesn't want to be friends, move on...that's the only way. Besides, you have your whole life ahead of you. Oh, and no true friend would ever do that to you. Nor should your family. Its your life, not theirs.
2006-06-26 11:32:31 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may have to work on him, or your friends, to see why he comes off that way to them, and not you.
I can't see you being friends with him, if none of your other friends like him.
Maybe you could convince a friend to get to meet him and get to know him better. But if you have broke up with him, that may be a tough way to go.
He may just simply want to move on, and who can blame him.
2006-06-26 11:34:26 · answer #5 · answered by johnb693 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are an idiot. A friend made you break up??? and you followed what your friend said??
You will learn your lesson pretty soon, unless you go and explain yourself to him.
If not, another girl will give him all the love you took away from him.
Grow up, it is your life, not anyone's else.
2006-06-26 11:32:41 · answer #6 · answered by charm 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't believe in "friends after love". It's taking a step backwards and that usually doesn't work well. I think it's time you let him go.
Plus,do you think your family/friends will think it's ok to even be his "friend"? If they really think he's so horrible, chances are no.
He's probably insulted that you think he's good enough to be your bud but not your bf.
2006-06-26 11:36:17 · answer #7 · answered by Caramella 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not as old as u but the same thing happened to me. trust me its not worth it. we ended up enemies even though i wanted to be friends. i realized that i could possibly love him and yeah the whole thing got ugly. i ended up hurt and still possibly in love with him and he ended up with my best friend. i moved on but i couldn't get over him but i finally did. we went out and broke up like 4 times. i was sad but like i said i finally got over him.and maybe your friend wanted to go out with him cause she forced u to go out with him or maybe she doesn't have any motives at all. i can't tell u if she does or doesn't but u should listen to your family and take their advice cause i regret not listening to my mom when she told me i should break up with him. IF YOU AND YOUR BOYFRIEND ARE MEANT TO BE, YOUR RELATIONSHIP WILL COME EASILY or so my mom says and she's usually right
2006-06-26 11:43:49 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should always listen to your friends and family, besides they are more important then any guy, and should never come between them. You did the right thing.
2006-06-26 11:30:56 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should try to talk to him and see if you can work it out. if your friend is making you feel bad for dating him ,then they are not true friends. ur family is little different but i would say sit down and talk to everyone involved to see if u came bring happiness out of it.
2006-06-26 11:37:04 · answer #10 · answered by D.A. O' Dell 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋