Maybe someone could help out on what to answer here.... I am not usually the person to open up about my emotions. So handling this situation is really hard. I've been going out with this guy for a couple of months. He is really nice, but I always have issues come up. 3 weeks ago, a family member ended up in a hospital, while we were supposed to go out on a date. So, of course I didn't go, but left him a message saying explaining what happened. He claimed he didn't receive the message. This Saturday, I was supposed to drive to his place. I said I was leaving, but got a call from work, and spent an hour on the conference call before leaving. He got upset, and told me I was incosiderate that I didn't call and warned him I was going to be late. My work is important to me, and I couldn't just get off the phone. Yesterday, we were suppoed to go out. But, I didn't receive a phone call from him. He said he called, and keeps asking me why I didn't call him. But, I was waiting for his call.
2006-06-26 11:26:19 · 8 answers · asked by persipals 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He is telling me that I am thoughless and inconsiderate. What do I do hear and how do I explain myself? I have no idea what to say now. Any ideas on how to make this work, and what to tell him so we don't break up.
2006-06-26 11:27:32 · update #1
JUST DUMP HIM b4 he really hurts u
2006-06-26 11:30:50 · answer #1 · answered by tutuskwad 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you will make every effort to be considerate of him - and follow through because if you don't show the effort, he'll just give up. Relationships are a 2-way street. He probably told you yesterday that he called, just to get back at you. Everyone understands that work is very important if you are expected to maintain your life. In this case, I agree with him...possibly you could've said to this person on the line, "I need to make a quick call to let someone know I'll be later than expected for a previous engagement. May I call you back in 5 minutes?" I'm certain the person on the call would've understood.
Don't let this type of thing keep going because he will eventually give up. You are dependable in your work, but you have to be dependable in relationships outside of work as well if you want them to succeed.
2006-06-26 18:36:09 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you really want to be with him? If you do, you need to make more of an effort to clarify you are not being a flake. He is right, you should have called him if you care about the guy. You have to reassure him of your intent with actions, not words. So no, there is nothing you can "say" to clear things up. Make a date to see him spontaneously. Call him and ask if he wants to do something immediately after your call - this way you can avoid things getting in the way and you having to make excuses. Only time will re-convince him that you were not just blowing him off and making him your last priority. Prove it to him or be fair and let the guy go.
2006-06-26 18:35:22 · answer #3 · answered by stargirllll4311 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if everything you said is true he needs to understand that. You guys really need to talk i out. And from the sounds of it you are 2 bz doing the things that you do. If he cant handle that is not going to work out. Dont wait. Really find some time to talk to him. Call in sick one day and dont answer your calls. Show up at his place and just talk about things. See were it goes from there
2006-06-26 18:33:02 · answer #4 · answered by you_me_set 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this guy sound like he likes some drama. i promise you if you put up with this b s it will only get worse. what are the chances that he keeps not getting you messages?slim i would say.he doesn't sound very nice to me and i would tell him that his drama queen attitude is not acceptable you are a working woman with responsibilities. if he can accept that great if not send the creep home to his momma.
2006-06-26 18:35:03 · answer #5 · answered by mojomuppet 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
man o man yeah i have been through that and yeah it sound like the more "coincedencies" happen the more he wont trust you. you dont want to sound like ""but but but u have to believe me" (well if theres no other way to prove it, heh) just let him noe "look, i really like you and if you think thats not it and im trying to blow you off then why am i still trying? consider the thought and please dont let my job and a little family issue get in the way." thats all i can say.....
2006-06-26 18:34:26 · answer #6 · answered by wendy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he's just using an excuse to control you. Get out while you can. You say you love your job,well I think I'd stay with that one instead.
2006-06-26 18:32:45 · answer #7 · answered by LnsmCa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you tried explaining this to him. It sounds pretty understandable to me. Communication is one of the biggest problems we have in this world, today.
2006-06-26 18:32:06 · answer #8 · answered by biggupp (דוד) 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋