going into the army...is it a good idea? Can we live with him?
2006-06-26 11:04:35 · 18 answers · asked by ash 2 in Politics & Government ➔ Military
for the smart a$$ who said dont send the 8 month old send the boyfriend - a.) its a girl and b.) this is a serious question c.) don't respond
2006-06-26 11:40:58 · update #1
you need to get married before he goes to basic, the amount he spends away from you all depends on the unit where he stationed , what MOS(his job). He could be home every day at 5pm or he could be going to iraq or to the field. But when you live on post you will not be alone. There are plenty of spouses to hang with. Most of them have little kids. I am a army spouse myself(three kids5,3 10 month hubby recruiter SFC)the on post schools and daycare are great, health insurance is 100% rfee.( my son was preemie and they paid for everything incl speech therapy)housing is free, so is the water and electricity. and you cant beat the commisary prices. GO FOR IT
2006-06-27 06:04:59 · answer #1 · answered by gonecrazy_fl 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The Army is a very stable job. I have been career Army for the past 20 years, 9 months and 9 days (see how much I enjoy it). I am staying until 25 or 26 years. I am getting married in August and she even had her Brother-In-Law (sister's husband) enlist so they can enjoy the good life we are.
You will have complications not being married. Many states (California for example) consider it a joint custody situation with a child born out of wedlock, therefore, both of you would be considered single parents and ineligible to enlist.
Also, if you are not married, you cannot have the Army send you with him to his duty assignments. If you are willing to get married, and love each other, I say do it.
2006-06-26 18:57:19 · answer #2 · answered by Mark W 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is a great idea my husband is in the army and I get all the benefits that he has with free medical for you and your child and BH and everything and I was 19 when I got married and of course you can live with him, either in military housing or off base. If you have more question you contact me at angelblue_nica22@yahoo.com
2006-06-26 19:00:21 · answer #3 · answered by Nicalo22 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
8 months old is too young for the army. Send the boyfriend instead.
2006-06-26 18:37:22 · answer #4 · answered by Charles M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You'll have to be married in order to live with him. Whether it's a good idea or not is debatable. Couples marrying that young, especially in the army...... Military life is stressful on a marriage. You may end up where you began.
2006-06-26 19:58:10 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it would be a good idea as far as having a stable source of income, a good job, free medical for you and the baby (as long as you get married), and yes you can live with him. Just make sure that if he decides to go into the army he goes active. Active duty is centered around those who have family's. The national guard is mainly for those who want money for collage and if you have a family it does nothing for them. Good luck.
a military wife
2006-06-26 18:54:05 · answer #6 · answered by Heather W 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get married. My husband went in the navy. He got stationed in Hawaii. We waited to get married because we wanted a nice wedding. We are still living apart. Because we can't afford to move with him. It has been over 3 years since he joined. It really sucks. We had a lot of problems getting our son on tricare. If you two think you can make it get married. They will not recognized you for anything. You would probably have to live off base. Cause they will not give you a id card.
2006-06-26 18:18:00 · answer #7 · answered by nay 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a great idea IF you get married.
IF you think you can cope with him being gone.
IF you are prepared to raise your child on your own on occasion.
IF you are prepared to move away from your family, and friends.
I married an AF guy and it's been brilliant!!
2006-06-26 18:32:48 · answer #8 · answered by nuttylouuk 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes its a great idea, as long you you realize there might be some late nights and deployments. but there is full medical and ental benefits too, get married before he goes to basic, trust me on this. Also, you will be able to live together after basic and ait, as long as your married. he will also get more pay for rent and bills and food.
2006-06-26 18:27:23 · answer #9 · answered by tubbasaurus 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if the two of you are married, the army will provide you with a house, or money to rent a house. the army will also pay to get you to whatever duty station he gets assigned to. but if you are not married, things will be complicated. my suggestion to you is that if you love the guy, the two of you should get married, or else you will have to pay to get to whatever duty station he gets assigned to, and getting housing will be a lot harder.
2006-06-26 20:11:56 · answer #10 · answered by krystal 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋