My boyfriend (26) and I (24) have been together for about 6 months now. In the beginning, he was great! He'd say and do sweet things for me. But since we moved in together (about a month ago) he stopped doing all the sweet nice things he used to do. How can I tell if something is wrong or if he just thinks since we live together he doesnt need to do all the mushy stuff anymore? I've tried talking to him about it, but when I do he quickly says "Yes I am happy with you" then it's end of discussion. He doesnt want to go any further into the conversation. I am truely in love with him but I need to know whether or not I should be patient or just assume this relationship was only "good while it lasted".
2006-06-26 10:37:19 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Reality check!!
Little one. This is where you and he find comfort in your relationship. You're not dating anymore. You are a couple. 98% of all men, once they get in their comfort zone, we relax. If we're right with everything, then we start to concentrate on more important stuff like taking care of you and the family we will make. We are men, the providers. It's in our nature. We are trained to be. Is he there with you? Does he come home at the same time everyday? Are you together on the weekends? If you answer no to any of these questions, then have concerns.
I love my wife and will do whatever it takes to make her happy. I do still talk silly with her. I hold her hand, open the door for her. I always tell her I love her. I will take her anywhere she would like to go. I don't, however, buy her flowers everytime we go out. Once in awhile, I'll surprise her.
The dating is over and the relationship begins.
Good luck.
2006-06-26 10:54:41 · answer #1 · answered by just me 3 · 17⤊ 3⤋
Your boyfriend evidently loves u or he would not be living with u. Guys just feel that once their are living with a woman that there is no need to do all the mushy stuff anymore. They have no reason to impress u now that you are living together. Guys think differently than women, so just relax and try not to be so pushy with him. The more u try to talk to him about your relationship the more upset he is going to get. If he didn't love u he would not still be with u. Just be patient, things will get better after awhile, he is probably still not quite use to the living arrangement yet. Give him some time for everything to settle down and he will come around.
2006-06-26 17:45:54 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you were a little quick to move in together. He might be annoyed at certain habits of yours..I know it sounds bad. Or he may not feel he has to be romantic since he sees you often...
But, when people co-habitat together...a lot of stuff can change. I think you should consider living separately again until you both really get to know each other well.
If you still want to live with him, I would suggest asking him to find time to talk ..one-on-one..in an honest manner. If he says "Yes, I am happy with you." Tell him you are serious..and want to talk. Both you can perhaps write a list of the positives and negatives of living together..and decide from there if you are ready or not for this.
2006-06-26 17:48:20 · answer #3 · answered by Mav17 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Many guys do alot of things in the beginning of a relationship to impress a girl they like even things that they normally do and once they know they don't need to do it anymore they stop cause they are more comfortable So maybe he does love you but just doesn't think he needs to do it anymore since you guys live together so talk to him and tell him you miss him being sweet to you So Good Luck.
2006-06-26 17:45:58 · answer #4 · answered by nena24 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he won't talk with you about it then you both have a problem. Chances are he's just gotten complacent and thinks that he doesn't have to do nice things for you anymore because you live together now. Sit down with him over dinner and have a serious talk about what you both want and where you are both going. If his answers say "I" instead of "we" then that's a sure sign that you need to move out and be single again. Relationships have got to be a team effort to work well and be happy. Communication and trust are the keys.
2006-06-26 17:42:17 · answer #5 · answered by Whitney S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he may be getting comfortable in the relationship and not trying to impress you all the time. Common occurence. Don't be concerned unless he never does anything nice for you and starts to take you for granted. It is not wrong to just be comfortable with the person you are living with. It happens in every marriage so I am sure it happens in a live - in situation as well.
2006-06-26 17:43:23 · answer #6 · answered by Showoff 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey i think yal could work it out if you love him and he loves you. dont ask him if he is happy with you, TELL him there is some things yal need to talk about because you don't feel that he is showing you the love that yal use to have. plus if its meant to be you should be able to talk to him. If he goes into that yes im happy with you thing again break up with his a$$ but the sweet things like opening the door for you when yal go out or pulling your chair out never really last after yal do da n@$^y.
2006-06-26 17:54:21 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be patient! Maybe the whole moving in bit was more overwhelming than he thought it would be. It takes a while to get adjusted to living with your companion!
2006-06-26 17:42:11 · answer #8 · answered by monkey69 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it takes alot of hard work to keep a good open relationship. you both need to sit down and settle these issues
2006-06-26 17:42:24 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
men can be lazy creatures when it comes to things like that....this is a glimpse into the future (aka marriage) if you do not confront the issue now.
2006-06-26 17:42:15 · answer #10 · answered by cookies_n_cream0218 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋