My baby boy LOVES to pull on my hair! Only now that he's older, I can barely get him off me to stop! Any suggestions on what to do?
2006-06-26 10:26:30 · 15 answers · asked by rocknrobin21 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
Let's clarify... I WILL NOT pull my son's hair back, and I WILL NOT beat him. And my hair is as short as it's going to get (just above shoulder length)
2006-06-27 05:23:11 · update #1
My son also pulled the cat's hair while he was in this phase - and it is just a phase. I never pulled his hair in response because someday when sally pulls his hair at school, i don't want him turning around and doing the same back.
Instead, i either calmly told him "no" and removed his hand from my hair, or, i firmly said "no" and set him down on the couch or a chair. I only continued to hold him if I wasn't someplace i could put him down.
I also found an animal book where the animal's fur, feathers or skins were textured. We worked with the words "gentle" and "nice" as we touched the different animals. When he did well with the book, we also let him touch our hair or pet the cat and repeating the words "gentle" and "nice". This gave him an acceptable alternative to pulling but still being able to feel or explore a new touch.
Good luck!
2006-06-26 11:12:30 · answer #1 · answered by adrienne 2 · 7⤊ 1⤋
I know that pulling your hair back in a pony tail might be the easiest answer (get your hair out of his way), but it will not teach him that pulling hair is painful to you. At 16 months, he should very well be able to understand the word "NO!" if said in a tone of voice that induces seriousness from mom. Not to frighten him, but to teach him that this is off limits. The same way you'd teach him not to touch the stove. Children must learn that our voices dictate the seriousness of our tone and that there must be something to 'what mommy is saying and I need to pay attention" . Hold his hand, look him in the eye and tell him "no". This hurts mommy. You must not pull hair. (don't laugh, cause I guarantee you - he will.....he will not take you serious unless, he sees your 'serious face' and each time he pulls it - repeat the same thing. Go on to some other activity. After a while, he will get it.
2006-06-26 17:33:23 · answer #2 · answered by THE SINGER 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pull his back (not a yank) but a firm pull. He enjoys pulling your hair because it is an instant (an entertaining) show. At this age he understands the word "no", but his need for entertainment outshines that one. He pulls your hair, you shriek, and on a good one he can get it tangled. This is serious fun! He has learned cause and effect which is a great developmental milestone. Now it is time to introduce a new effect, which after about 2 weeks he should stop.
2006-06-27 11:21:27 · answer #3 · answered by rdw187 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When he pulls your hair if you're holding him put him down and tell him NO you can not pull Mommies hair. If he does it when you're around him again say NO move away from him and ignore him for a minute or two. He has to know that the consequence for pulling your hair is that you won't "be" with him. But you have to be consistent.
2006-06-26 21:27:36 · answer #4 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pull it back. My dad did that to one of my nephews and he never pulled hair again. Just do it hard enough for him to feel it, but don't yank hair out or anything. My nephew cried for a second and my dad just told him it hurts to pull anybody's hair. That was 7 years ago and to this day, he does not pull hair
2006-06-26 17:34:05 · answer #5 · answered by Angela 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He'll stop when you have no hair left.. or when he 'grows' out of it. No, just joking. I think you could try and distract him somehow- you have probably tried everything imaginable, what about a funnny song he likes, or a video?
Tie you hair back really tight, or cut it short temporarily. Not a great suggestion if you have been growing your hair for a long time... :(
2006-06-26 17:31:41 · answer #6 · answered by SatAtmaKaur 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
3 options-1)cut your hair 2)smack his hand 3)pull his hair back. All 3 are effective
2006-06-26 17:33:01 · answer #7 · answered by thesmart1 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When your child pulls your hair, get your hair out of his hands and tell him that it hurts and not to do it anymore. Be consistent about it maybe he will quit.
2006-06-26 19:21:29 · answer #8 · answered by bern 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure he loves getting a reaction out of you... :) It is fun to see mom jump and say "OUCH"
Just look him in the eye and tell him, "That hurts Mommy, honey" And unwind his fingers from your hair... I know it's not fun, but he will get it. Or else...braid your hair or put it in a pony tail until he is a bit older...
2006-06-26 17:49:03 · answer #9 · answered by izofblue37 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get your hair cut short so he can't pull it
2006-06-26 19:23:45 · answer #10 · answered by dishwasher67 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋