i found out that my x- is cheating w/ my best friend. i need advice on what 2 tell her. i also don't want 2 lose any friends help p/z!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-06-26 10:10:51 · 34 answers · asked by hottie4eva153 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
hmmm,tough situation well he is your ex for a reason and she is your best friend,friends are harder to come by sit her down talk to her and tell her how you feel wait and see what her response is then and only then will you know how close of friends you really are.
2006-06-26 10:24:40 · answer #1 · answered by chuck 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It took a while for me to figure it out, and I still don't know why you think it is your business to get in the middle of it. Is your Ex remarried? Do you think it's your job to tell your best friend what to do, or are you just wanting to give warning? If both of them already know your Ex is cheating, then all you can do is tell them you are uncomfortable (as the others here suggested) and that you don't want anyone to get hurt. Let them know you are still a friend. Is that true? I don't want my friends interfering in my business usually. There have to be boundaries somewhere.
2006-06-26 10:19:57 · answer #2 · answered by Zelda Hunter 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get out your list of why your ex is a bad boy and explain it to your friend very carefully.
Here are a few things that you can tell her:
Bad boys can only play one hat in life, when life requires that they play many.
Bad boys usually have had the pity party already, which means they lack self esteem, self confidence, and self worth... and they try to bring everyone down when they are down and out.
Bad boys tend to go after one thing in life and one thing only when it comes to women. It's a 3 letter word and we all know what that one is and how much it hurts when there is no trust or open communication or even a genuine friendship first..
Bad boys don't respect or value your sense of Trust or your sense of People either. They only value themselves and they are selfish.
After you've explained these things to her, Make sure you take yourself out for a treat. I suggest a coffee and a slice of cheesecake, as a reward for doing something positive for your friend and your friendship with them.
2006-06-26 10:15:57 · answer #3 · answered by snorkelman_37 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you absolutely, positively sure of this? You need to be 100% sure before tellling her. If you are, then follow this.
Start with "We need to talk." Say to her "Since we're friends, I promised myself I would tell you this. You need to trust me that this is completely true, and know that I am here for you if you need me." And then you take a deep breath, and tell her straight. Don't sugar coat it. Beleive me, it's best to tell her. It's very similar to taking away someone's keys: They may be angry/hurt at the moment, but they'll thank you in the long run. Good luck to you and your friend, and tell that ex to go jump off a cliff!
2006-06-26 10:18:12 · answer #4 · answered by cowgirl91 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her. Sit her down and let her know that you care about her and don't want her to get hurt. She may not believe you, and she may get mad at you for "trying to break them up", but even if that does happen she'll eventually realize that you were just trying to help.
Think about it this way: if you were being cheated on and she knew, would you want her to keep quiet or tell you?
2006-06-26 10:17:19 · answer #5 · answered by Not Allie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is important that you tell her. I know I would want to know if my boyfriend was cheating. But be prepared for her to not believe you. Get some proof, or something concrete to show her, saying that you are telling the truth.
2006-06-26 10:16:55 · answer #6 · answered by hawaiianrain69 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
make sure that the girl is really your friend cause if she's not then even if you have hard core proof of this then she is still gonna cuss you out. so make sure that she will believe you and is not crazy in love. tell her that you don't want her to get hurt and that he's cheating on you.
2006-06-26 10:24:36 · answer #7 · answered by oaklandolee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her the truth and when you finish telling her say," Oneday, it just happened i just saw him cheatin', I hope you'er not mad because that's what good friends do right?... they tell the truth. If i wasn't a good friend i wouldn't be tellin' you this. "Still buddies?"
Make sure you end it like that because that's the best kind of way to end an (keepin' a friend) conversation ^_~
2006-06-26 10:19:17 · answer #8 · answered by preteen1187 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dated a guy for 8 months we got together after he told me his best friend was cheating on me. It took us 8 months. We dated secretly for 3 months he was in boot-camp, navy. So we had to wait till he called us. He got over it. And married the whore. And now is chating on her. Hope that helps.
2006-06-26 10:24:51 · answer #9 · answered by Nice girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep your nose out of it! None of your business. - The way I read it is that you and this guy is no longer together. Besides - is this female is your best friend - what is she doing with your ex? I would move on and find a new best friend!
2006-06-26 10:15:49 · answer #10 · answered by Blond Logic 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋