Okay, I'm REALLY shy around everyone! I have to go to my aunt's baby shower on Saturday and my 3rd cousins are gonna be there and a guy that I really don't know. I'm gonna be the only teenage girl there around teenage guys. One of them is actually related to me so that makes me more comfortable. We have to go swimming in the pool and that obviously means that I'll be even more self consicous in my bathing suit. Any suggestions on how to be confident?
2006-06-26 10:00:30 · 22 answers · asked by roxy81492 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Take a deep breath, smile and imagine that everyone is nude and they don't know it !
2006-06-26 10:02:50 · answer #1 · answered by yodeladyhoo 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you feel they are all looking at you just remember it is just your imagination. And also one of them is related to you so that would make me feel better. Im shy around guys too. But if i was going to that. I just wouldn't swim at all. No matter who told me i had to. So if you're that uncomfortable just don't go swimming. Or if you wanna ne ways or if you can't get out of having to go swimming. Then just wear a t-shirt over your bathinsuit. thats what i do. Like if you have gym clothes from school then use the t-shirt from gym. thats what i do or i just get another t-shirt that is really long on me. I hope i helped you some!! Oh always remember to be confident. Also how do you know maybe the guys ur gonna go swimming with are also uncomfortable or shy or embarrassed just as much as you. just jump and dive in and forget bout what if they are looking at you. have fun!!!
2006-06-28 01:37:38 · answer #2 · answered by I Luv Joel Madden!! 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you wear a bathing suit that is right for your body type and flatters your figure, you will feel more confident and have a good time. This site has great info, you may get some ideas.
2006-06-30 10:45:07 · answer #3 · answered by oilman11977 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First try to get in the mind frame, it only matters what you think about yourself not what anyone else thinks.... Just be your self as if you were with a few of your friends.... most important.... keep in mind that you are a very sweet, kind, and fun loving person.... everyone will enjoy being around you.... and you will have fun...
2006-06-26 17:06:08 · answer #4 · answered by Fantasy Kel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be yourself and realize that none of the people really give a flying f*** about what you look like in a swim suit. Dont be shy its not the way to live, be fear free and it will pay off a million fold.
2006-06-26 17:05:40 · answer #5 · answered by Sparky 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
put on superwoman underwear ( or something to that effect that nobody knows about expect you) - or imagine an invisible shield around you to protecct you from their glances
imagine a protective buble around you - breath into it - imagine cool air flowing into imagine all of oyur favorite things in the bubble.
imagine the bubble with a raging fire surrounding it warding off unwanted visitors. you might also try to imagine a LION outside of the bubble to protect you
you are just more sensitive to your environment and need to learn to ground your self to protect yourself form other peoples energies. you might also be an HSP - highly sensitive person ( a good book by the same topic is available)
if you need more suggestions how to ground yourself - email me
2006-06-26 17:15:59 · answer #6 · answered by cvy2000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just be youeself. i went to one of my friends party once and there was a lot of people there and i was a very shy person. when i got there i didn't talk to anyone i didn't know b/c i was shy, than later on people come to me talking and than i realize that there was nothing to be shy about. And if you think people are goin to talk about your bathing suit just let them talk and think whatever they want to just let yourself know that you look good no matter what.Have fun and get out in the world more let people know you are there.
2006-06-26 17:13:03 · answer #7 · answered by cherry 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well first see if one of your friends can go with you,if not me open to new things ,I was so shy growing up I missed alot of fun , its a pool Have fun go get you a really pretty suit and let the boys do their thing never know they may what to know you let it happen, think all girls go thru this you need to take a big breath and go with the flow.
2006-06-26 17:06:28 · answer #8 · answered by kittycat 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can put on a t-shirt over your suit till you feel a little more comfortable and then take it off if you want. I had a baby not too long ago and thats what I do wear a t-shirt.
2006-06-26 17:05:23 · answer #9 · answered by Mrswindon 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wear a thing around your waist or you can take off your robe really fast and then just jump into the pool first so that no one can see you. then when you get out just make sure to have your robe near you. then again one thing you must do is suck it in and stand up straight. good posture helps alot.
2006-06-26 17:03:59 · answer #10 · answered by oaklandolee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be yourself. Let them see what kind of person you really are, and they will like you for you. Don't try to be something you are not. I wish you all the luck. I know it's tough being shy. It's taken me a long time to overcome it myself.
2006-06-26 17:05:17 · answer #11 · answered by destini'smom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋