Terrible Toddler...?

Question

How do you keep your 23 month old from beating on your 11 month old??? Spankings don't seem to work, asking him nicely doesn't either.

MY TODDLER DOES NOT SAY ANYWORDS...

These are all great answers so far, but alot of you are saying talk to him... he doesn't talk yet, so i'm not sure he can understand.

It's also more then me spanking him. He will take one of his toy trucks and swing it into the baby's face. I spank my kids on the behind, I don't whack them with trucks and toys.

Answer 1

Remember to remain calm. Make sure your child knows that what they are doing is wrong. Stay consistent. Come up with more disciplinary acts: a timeout chair, no TV, don't be afraid to punish them. When you find something that works, stick to it, and don't cave in!!! But always remember to remain calm.

Answer 2

Have you ever seen super nanny? Best is be firm. I worked at a pre-school for a while with children that are mentally slow (not exactly handicapped, but more than the average handful) I can't tell you how well it works when you do this:
1) Come down to their level and warn them slowly and firmly not to do what they're doing, and telling them (just once) that id they persist, they get a time-out or sit on the 'naughty chair' for a certain amount of time
2) Always then follow up that threat with the 'naughty chair'. Always. It might be a longer-term thing, but it does work.
3) explain to them afterwards why they were there, and that if they do it again they'll be back on the naughty chair.

1 minute of time out per year of of age. It really works!

Answer 3

Hi
my daughter is 21 months old and believe me even though they might not verbalize well, they fully understand almost ever word you say.. It' true and they do remember. My daughter started hitting us or anyone in the face. So I would grab her hands and make her look in my eyes and say That is not nice !! and then get her hands & gently rub it on my face and say Nice Nice. I know this sound stupid,but it works. She now comes to me and rubs my face and says Nice nice mommy.. I also would put her in time out, Yes even at 23 months .. If you have a hallway make him stand outside the door in the hallway, where there is nothing to look at.. After doing this for maybe 2 weeks he should respond better and not hit your other child.. Like the other people said he wants your attention, which I know it's hard for you. Good Luck !!

Answer 4

Remove him from anywhere near the 11 month old & strip him off privileges-like no more playing with a favourite toy of his or no outing that day,no watching TV.Tell him that unless he stops the beatings,his privileges will remain suspended and tell him that his beatings hurts the 11 month old.Usually,such behaviour is juat an attempt at getting attention-so,praise him when he doesn't hurt the 11 month old & at every oppurtunity whenever he does something nice for the baby.It will be a battle of wills,but it will work,eventually.

Answer 5

He has probably found a way to get your attention when he hurts the baby. The best thing to do when he hurts the baby is to completely shut him out when it happens. Pick up the baby and empathize a ton "Ouch. That must have hurt you!" Give the baby lots of kisses and attention. You son won't like the feeling of being shut out.

He may understand more then you think. Tell him if he is going to hurt the baby you can't have him near the baby. Be overly dramatic about it when he goes near the baby for awhile. Pick up the baby and move it away from you son.

Notice him when he is being gentle. Tell him things like "You're being so nice, gentle, soft, easy...". He will enjoy the positive attention and continue to be gentle. Good luck!

Answer 6

You should not let your son beat your baby! Talk to your 23 month old about how this makes you and the 11 month old feel. This has to stop. Simply keep him away from the baby until he promises to be nice and gentle.

Answer 7

You can't teach a kid to not beat on a kid by beating on him.

He is probably doing it because it gets him attention. The little one is getting more attention than he is and woah, if he smacks him he gets some attention!
Make it obvious that the big one will get more attention when the smaller one is happy. Clearly a smacked baby will be fussing and mommy will ignore the other one. But when the baby is quietly playing with his toys, mommy can read a story, or cuddle, or play a game. Smack the baby, and look, he cries again and you get ignored. See?

Answer 8

Try encouraging your 23 mo old to help by getting diapers to change to baby. Talk to him about taking care with your younger child. Let him know that he is the big brother and encourage, encourage, encourage!! Lot's of positive feedback should get him on the right track. Also, make sure that he has some of your time especially for himself. He still needs to know that he has your attention.

Answer 9

When my two year old would hit or do something to our baby I would yell naughty and take her to her room and put her in time out for 5 minutes. When they are young it is hard to discipline because they don't understand much. If he doesn't have his own room even making him sit on a chair in the corner or in a room by himself will help. It's worth a try.

Answer 10

Yeah ok...well let's see what's NOT to do.....hit a child and than tell them not to hit....hmmmm what logic.....Wonder where the child learnt that it was appropriate to hit the younger one...............

Maybe a time out after which you explain to him how the youngest felt when he got hit and let the 23 month old have the chance to apologize....if not there are many other techniques that don't involve teaching them to do exactly what you're telling them not to....good luck