i have a religion and it says i cant marry anyone whos not the same religion as me ......?

Question

but i like someone whos not the same reglion as is it a good idea to make them the same religion as me so we can be together

Answer 1

Or you could change to theirs. Or you could both give up your superstitions and not worry about such things.

Answer 2

Look beyond today - does the other person want to be of the same "religion"? They may say yes today, but in a relationship no bars hold truth must be had when it comes to the spiritual foundation of the relationship. If the answer is no, but they are willing to convert so as to marry you, then what happens when children come, are they going to support you in raising the children in your religion? or will there be a certain amount of conflict, as to why can't they just stay home, or do you have to shove it down their throats like you do the mates? Which goes back to a reason why it is better to marry within your own belief system, because then there is not a question as to where you will go for your worship, why your will worship the way you do, or how your family will be raised. From a Christ-following example in the New Testament it is advised this way as it helps to avoid conflict. Having just watched my Christian sister, divorce after 20 years, because her non-Christian husband decided he was tired of the "pressure" of Christianity, which she didn't put on him, she just remained faithful to her calling in the church, it proves the point of the need for unity in the beliefs for a solid foundation to the marriage.

Answer 3

First, if you are serious about your religion then you should try to understand more about it - you should find out what the precise objection is.

You need to understand whether it is simply love or lust. Real love means sharing each others values and respecting them. You cannot do this if there are things in your religion that the other person may find hard to accept or compromise on and similarly for yourself.

Religions often prescribe marriage as a life long commitment - Are you prepared to live with compromises and are you sure you can? Priorities often change later in life - if you are not too serious about your religion now - you may become more so later in life - will you partner be able to support you?

Good luck.

Answer 4

Is it your religion that says that or the Bible that says that?? I can tell you that you can't MAKE someone be the same religion as you. You can though introduce them to your religion and they can make the choice to follow. Also in a marriage when the husband and wife are of two different religions it CAN cause a lot of problems inthe marriage especcially when it comes on how to raise the kids. One partner might fstrongly want to celebrate Halloween for example and the other person believes it to be EVIL. What then? A big argument always. So it is better to marry in your own faith.

Answer 5

You can't MAKE a person change their religion, that person would be changing his/her religion for all the wrong reasons. Some persons will tell you to go ahead and don't let religion stop you from marrying anyone. But, every religion has different beliefs and there will be some form of contradiction between the two of you sometime or the other.

Answer 6

See there are to things you have some rules to protect your self and your family in case of a religion rules are there to make sure that the interest of the society is given first importance..

and second thing which we like to do and hear "Laws are made to be broken".. i don't wanna say that you must go against them but then do try to make sure that you put in focus what is that you need from your parents and make sure they have a reason to allow you to do what you want to..

The first reason to ban marriage outside a social group is that the two who marry have same type of upbringing so that they understand each other and become more complementary to each other, but today that difference between up bringing is not that much try to make them understand

Good Luck

Answer 7

I think it depends on how strict you follow your religion. Down the road though when if you marry this person and if you have children you will have to decide what religion you want to raise your kids. This can be a difficult decission. Also, it may be hard to raise these kids in that religion if both their parents don't believe the same thing. They may start second guessing if there is truly a god out there. hope I helped

Answer 8

If your religion doesn't allow you to marry who you want then you should decide if you and this other person really want to be together and decide what you are going to do. If you do want to be together then either they will have to at least try to accept your religion or you will have to stop practicing that religion. That doesn't mean you have to stop believing. If neither of you are willing to make that sacrifice then you could get around it by asking the other person to go to your place of worship with you and try to "fit in" then get married and then after that the other person can decide she doesn't really want to be that religion any more. I guess the religion you are talking about doesn't condone divorce either.

Answer 9

Are you a christian? The bible says not to marry someone who is unequally yolk. It would be better if you went with your religion. If God is more important to you than anyone else, you should respect that, and not think about yourself.. put God and His word before anything. I'm going through the same situation, and yes it's easier said than done. My boyfriend is a Muslim, and I know I can't marry him, so it's very difficult. Good luck though, I hope we both figure this thing out!!

Answer 10

If the person you like also wants to marry you, then you can explain to them about your religious beliefs. Maybe they will convert in order to be with you, I've heard of it happening before. My brother got baptised to marry his wife, though I don't think he's really a devout Christian...

If they refuse to convert, despite loving you, that's just hard for you. You would then need to consider if you value your loved one more than your faith... maybe that would be the case, who can say?

On the other hand, you may not know for certain what the feelings of the other person are towards you... if it turns out they don't want to be with you, the cause is lost whatever religion they are.

Just trust to love, it will find out a way... don't be selfish, and you will find a way to be with the person who's meant for you.

Answer 11

You can't really "make" anyone join a religion; it's a choice. Nevertheless, I think it is better for married couples to have the same religion. If you think it would help, my church has tons of teachings about how to make our relationships and families stronger. Check it out: www.mormon.org.