Should you ever talk back OR get smart with your parents at any age???

Question

I am a 27 year old woman and my mother thinks that I should not talk back to her or express any opinion that differs from her own.

Answer 1

If your mother is that out of control then you need some major distance. At age 27 she has no right to treat you like that. She has some problems and I think I would cut her off at the knees.

Good luck!
G.G.

Answer 2

Gokart 21 has the right idea. I am also 27 and my mother and I have been at odds for the last eight years. I moved out of her house at 19 and went back last month. HOwever, that only lasted 3 days. I am 7 months pregnant and I would have loved to depend on my mother for love, support and advice but that a no go.

Do all you can to have a discussion with her, voicing how you feel. Do not ever back answer if you can control it. Love your mom and cherish her, I wish that my probs were that easy.

Answer 3

You should be able to express your opinion to your mom whether it agrees with her opinion or not. I wouldn't consider differences of opinions "talking back". You are an adult and have a right to your opinion. That opinion doesn't have to agree with anyone else's in the world. Having respect and not talking back in anger is another facet. That would definitely not be advisable. One of the 10 Commandments does say, "Honor thy father and thy mother". Your mom may need to accept the fact that you are an adult and hasn't done so yet. Therefore she may treat you like you're still a child and can't form your own opinion. Good luck!

Answer 4

Yes, being a grown woman you should express your feelings to your mom. But you should always be respectful about it. Your mother should take solace in the fact that she has raised a woman who can and does formulate her own opinions and is not afraid to voice them and stand by them. Maybe you guys should do something that the two of you like to do, go to a common mutual ground and ease the conversation in. Remember no matter how old we get and how much we accomplish our parents generally will always look at us children.

Answer 5

You should express to your parents about how you feel about her opinion and the things that she say at any age. There are alot of parents that don't allow kids to express their own opinions, which is wrong. Even if parents don't allow kids to do what they want, they should allow their kids to express their feelings. Keeping feelings inside is never a healthy way to grow up. So you should express your feelings with your parents. You should not get smart with them. You just talk to them. There is a difference between to get smart with parents and expressing your opinion.

Answer 6

well.. my belief is do not disrespect your parents, however you are of age and should be making rational decisions about your life. I am 26, my mother and I disagree ALOT, especially about child rearing... I have never been disrespectful, I have always listened.. but, I have always been myself and spoke up about what I feel.......... you must at least take in what she is saying.

If it really bothers you that much... talk to your mother tell her that you appreciate and value all of her concerns, comments and suggestions... however you are grown now and you would like for her to respect you as an adult... she can still love you as a mother.

However, some mothers have a hard time letting go of there "little girls" and they don't want them to stray to far and try to keep a hold on there lives.

it will be aiight.. respectfulness and disrespectfulness can be a thin line when it comes to parents.. you know your mother best, talk to her.

Answer 7

I think by the time ur 27 years old, she shouldn't be treating you like ur 5...does this mean she's gonna put soap in ur mouth? Come on, she needs to treat you like an adult. There comes a time when a child becomes a grown child and parents need to realize that. Tell you mother you respect her and love her but you don't feel the same way she does and she needs to give you the respect you give her. If she's unable to do this, then you need to not take it personal and try ur best to NOT share with her ur opinions. I know it's hard because we want our parents to believe in us and support us but sometimes they are just not capable. Good luck to you!

Answer 8

As the adult(42) child of my mother(78), I have a bit of experience with this. There is a difference between having a difference of opinion and talking back, or sassing. I NEVER talk back to my mother, but we do have differences of opinions. Having said that, I realize that your mother, like mine, is never going to be wrong. The biggest thing I have learned is to be the bigger person. I can't win them all, and in the end, it's usually not all that important to win. I pick my battles and ignore the rest. Sometimes she says things that really tweak me, but I try and remember that giving voice to everything I am thinking isn't always the best plan. Sometimes, in order to keep peace in the family, I just let it go. You will have to right to be right after she is gone. You only have one mother. Just nod your head, say yes, ma'am and go right on about your business. You have to hear her advice, you don't have to take it.

Answer 9

You can answer the questions that she has honestly and you should voice you opinions honestly, but you can do that with out smarting off and being rude. I am a mom and my kids are aloud to tell me how they feel, but they can't do it in a disrespectful way. They don't have to yell at me or talk to me like I'm stupid but, if they think I'm wrong, then they will tell me. I am a human too and I do make mistakes just like everyone else.

To answer your question, no, don't talk back, but do voice your opinions.

Answer 10

I respect my parents greatly! I am grown, married and have kids. I do not get smart with either of my parents or "back talk" but if we disagree about something I let it be known. I dont just stand around and let their opinion be the only one in the room any more.. but I never cut them down