This seemed very rude. Is it better to elope than do this? Do all women want this to be part of a wedding?
2006-06-26 09:03:44 · 17 answers · asked by graffeng 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I think its very tacky and would never do it myself, but its up to the couple. If you ask me, a wedding isnt to get money and you should NEVER expect a gift or anything from anybody. When I got married, I didnt get gifts from half the people who came and we didnt care because we did it for us, not for anyone else. Its also not about trying to get money back that you spent. Anyone who thinks this way should not marry.
2006-06-26 10:46:36 · answer #1 · answered by Jenn ♥Cadence Jade's mum♥ 7 · 4⤊ 5⤋
No, I wouldn't want to elope just because of this. Some people have an old tradition of doing this at the wedding in my family others would be offended that we didn't do the traditions, but people who aren't interested don't have to do dance at that time.
2006-06-26 16:11:34 · answer #2 · answered by brezzy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are various cultures in which "The Money Dance" is a traditional part of the wedding reception. In such cultures, the guests are prepared with money and straight pins and they know what to do.
The concept of "The Money Dance" is that the male guests pay for the privilege of dancing with the bride, and by extension, the female guests pay for the privilege of dancing with the groom. The custom originated in Poland and is still celebrated at many ethnic weddings today. The money is to be used for the bride and groom's honeymoon.
The dance takes place at sometime after the first dance. Either the MC or the Disc-Jockey announces the "event." Customarily, the best man begins dancing with the bride, pinning money onto her gown, or putting it into his satin bag which she carries especially for the location. In a newer version of this custom, the dance includes bridesmaids and other ladies who dance with the groom and pin money on his lapel. Each of the guests who dance with the bride or groom, respectively, takes only a few moments before another guest cuts in.
At Ukrainian weddings, the father of the bride usually begins, pinning money on her dress. He is followed by the best man and groomsmen, and, finally, by the remainder of the male guests. At Yugoslavian weddings, instead of pinning the money on the bride's gown, the male guests give the money to the best man for safe keeping. At Hungarian and Portuguese weddings, the bride takes off her shoes and puts them in the middle of the dance floor. Then the shoes are passed around from guests to guest, and each deposits a "contribution".
2006-06-26 16:08:32 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, this is not rude this is custom in some traditions as a matter of fact some have what is called a money tree it it a tree that sits next to the table of the bride and groom and people tie money onto the tree. Been to wedding of both traditions.
2006-06-28 11:23:48 · answer #4 · answered by nanimos 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally, I didn't want a dollar dance at my wedding because I didn't like the idea of making my guests pay to dance with me. But I do sometimes enjoy it at other weddings when I'm good friends with the groom and it gives me a little time to talk to him.
2006-06-26 16:13:05 · answer #5 · answered by Reverie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it's very traditional why did that seem to bother you so much. Actually its a nice way of trying to help I think more because of the cost of things and it gives the Bride/Groom a lil money extra to enjoy their honeymoon. No Biggie, I mean U ddnt HAVE to participate. Some do , some dont
2006-06-26 16:08:29 · answer #6 · answered by Angel B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is tradition in some cultures and is not rude in those circumstances. It is not traditional in my culture and I would not feel very happy to have that at my wedding, I would not want my guests to feel obligated into giving me money, we would rather they donated money to an animal charity instead of gifts or having a money dance.
2006-06-27 10:57:44 · answer #7 · answered by sparkleythings_4you 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
According to my in-laws, it's acceptable and they intend on holding one at my wedding in 2 months.. I've never been to a wedding that had one.. But a lot of the people that I've spoken to say it's rather normal to do it..
2006-06-27 00:19:10 · answer #8 · answered by Ms. Princess 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not everyone does this - it's more popular in certain areas of the country, and of course, every couple decides for themselves whether or not to do it. I agree, it's rude, so I didn't do this at my wedding.
2006-06-26 22:04:49 · answer #9 · answered by KrisD 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get over it.This is one of the best parts of the wedding and paying for him/her to dance with you is good,she is giving time to you when she could be giving her time to her new husband.
2006-06-26 16:37:42 · answer #10 · answered by movin12006 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Where was your wedding..?? It is part of some culture I know that..it is not rude in those cultures...you arenot neccessarly buying a present, but you spent your money this way ,,so basically you are helping them ...it is not as bad...
2006-06-26 18:33:52 · answer #11 · answered by Buggy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋