my friend doesn't actually speak to me directly when I do something that aggravates her. btw, we also work together. instead she'll do stuff like invite other office friends to happy hour, but not ask me. I know exactly what I did that bothers her, but haven't apologized or spoken to her about it. Should I just leave the issue alone since she hasn't brought it up directly, or should I instead talk to her and apologize and say I'll try not to aggravate her again?
2006-06-26 09:03:41 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Depends...do you do the thing that aggravates her on purpose or sub consciously? If the first, then if you do it on purpose you have no reason to complain knowing it bothers her so much. Although i don't think much of her reaction either. It's something kids do in grade school not in adult life.
If it's something you do subconsciously and don't mean to do it then i guess you have to decide if what you are doing is really that big of a deal or not. If it is..then try to stop doing it. If it isn't then she needs to chill out a bit. The bottom line here is if you two are friends then little aggravations shouldn't cause this kind of tension. "A friend is someone who knows all there is to know about you, but likes you anyway."
Unless you are burying bodies in your back yard, nothing should become between "Friends".
2006-06-26 09:13:01 · answer #1 · answered by swt_tulips 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a friend that has "communication problems" just like that. But you know, the thing about friends is that they're different people than you, who handle things differently. I love all my friends and I know all their faults and strengths. This just happens to be one of your friend's faults, you can come to terms with it and accept it, learn to work around it- OR you can talk to her about it- but thing I've learned is people will deal with things differently, you might end up pushing her away. I think acceptance is so much more important in cases like this. Some people are just the way they are. And if she avoids confrontation in that sense, she probably will avoid you confronting her about her way of dealing with the issues. It'll blow over!
2006-06-26 16:15:51 · answer #2 · answered by HE'S NOT INTO ME 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be the grown up, appoligize.
2006-06-26 16:06:55 · answer #3 · answered by AMY L 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her to grow up!!
2006-06-26 16:06:39 · answer #4 · answered by lissad 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋