but we get along great, and I love him! Anyone else in a relationship with a significant age gap? If so, how did you meet, how long have you been together, and how's it working for you? Do people ever judge you/him? Details...
2006-06-26 09:00:29 · 39 answers · asked by Nonna 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Please do NOT worry yourself with that age gap. It's really not all that bad. It's only 8 yrs and both of you guys are adults...I think it's completely ok. I say go for it...
2006-06-26 09:02:55 · answer #1 · answered by mesofemme 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am in a relationship with an age gap and I personally prefer it that waybecause in my opinion older guys are more mature...or at least that has been my experience so far. I'm 26 and he's 32 and we have been together for the most of eight years. The difference in age isn't really noticeable to us or other people because even though I am 26 I'm told that I act older than my age. When we met I was 17 and he was 23 but he believed I was in my twenties because of the way I acted. People today only care about a significantly large old gap like if the guy is old enough to be your father or your grandfather....I know cause I've gotten dirty looks from people when I've gone out to have dinner with my father and they assume we are a couple. Age is really only a number it is how mature a person is and what they have learned by that age that is more important.
2006-06-26 09:22:35 · answer #2 · answered by missconduct 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not so much an age gap as a difference in maturity levels. At around 28, some guys are starting to settle down, and it's not all about the next party or next woman. At 20, a woman is still finding herself (corny as that may seem) but by nature is already "fairly" mature. I don't think there's anything wrong with being 20 and dating a 28 year old. People are going to judge you, no matter where you go, what you do, or who you go and do it with. It's fact of life. You either accept it, and keep right on going about your business, or if it bothers you enough, you change what they're criticizing. If you're happy, go for it. You can date somebody just for the fun of it, it doesn't mean you have to settle down, get married and have 2.5 kids. Just enjoy yourself, and don't stress so much about the age difference and what other people think. Life is too short to be miserable!
2006-06-26 09:06:11 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was in a relationship with that age gap (19 and 27) and it was bad. I was way too immature for the relationship (I was 19), and she was so "scarred" from previous relationship, it was doomed to failure. I would bet (mostly because I barely had an idea of what actual love was) that you aren't really in love. You can get along great, but I doubt it is going to work. We were together all of about 4 months before it crashed badly. My mom and step-dad are the same gap, but they got married when they were in their 30s so they were in the same "place" of life.
2006-06-26 09:05:39 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm 41 and my woman is 24. We met 5 years ago. I love her in spite of her wierd kooky world as I know my world is kooky to her. I keep her only by letting her be. She keeps me by letting me be. That is how we know we have chosen eachother. Being chosen after all is better than being needed. However many times people might tell you age doesn't matter it does. For different reasons. I know many people that have communication problems with reasonable age zones. The age gap is only an issue if you make it one, and if you do then there is no way you can wonder why your relationship isn't going as predicted. There are responsibilities that come with any type of relationship. Respect, compromise, understanding, and communication are only a few of them. After all the choice was yours alone
I hope this answer just changed a life. Peace.
2006-06-26 22:46:30 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
my mom and dad were nine years apart. They were married for 4 years. I don't think it is that big of a deal. Men still think like 20 yr olds when they are 28 anyway so at least you will be on the same level. I am 22 and my hubby is 27. I was with a guy who was nine yrs older than me when I was 18. It did not last but no one looked down on us. If you guys are meant to be then it will all work out. Just don't rush into anything. i e kids and marriage. Lol. wish I would have waited a little longer. oh well good luck
2006-06-26 09:05:47 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was in one of those relationships, he was 10 years older than myself. It was okay but he was a jerk. People did not really judge, not that I knew of. But in all relationships people are going to judge that is a part of life. I would not care if I felt that I was doing the right thing that I would stand by what I do. It turns out that he was a user and I am now in debt because of him and my being naive but hey you live and you learn. I know that no matter how old or young he was if it was in him to take advantage of me and I was foolish enough to allow him to (for what ever reason) it was going to happen. My point if you do not let the age bother you and you are truly comfortable with that then to hell with what other people say and think. The important thing is that you are not breaking any laws, you are both adults and that you are happy.
2006-06-26 09:12:02 · answer #7 · answered by Nicole C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would be better if you started getting involved when you were legally and enjoying the benefits of being 21. I met a guy who was crazy about me through mutual friends. We stayed together for over fifteen years and things were great. Then the changes of aging begin to show up and the generation gap started. It ended with my heart not only being broken but crushed. He will never be the same. I would tell you to pass on this...the short time happiness is simply not worth the pain of a broken heart.
2006-06-26 09:06:07 · answer #8 · answered by jodie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Age is just a number, I am 30 and my bf is 40. No one else should care about your ages (as long as you are over 18) There may be issues as to interests of you two, but maybe not even that. I think it is all about the maturity levels of the parties. Our age difference is working out great for us. Good Luck!!
2006-06-26 09:04:56 · answer #9 · answered by lissad 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm 33 and my b/f is 26. We've been together 4 years and he's been living with me for 3. When I met him I was actually dating one of his friends. But I secretly fell in love with him as we spent more time together as a big group. I admit it was hard at first. My parents gave me the most sh*t about it. My friends all thought I was bold. But when you're on the same level as someone mentally it makes things alot easier. The one thing I had to accept is that my love is still a child in some things, like video games and picking up after himself. But as long as there is comprimise anything is possible:)
2006-06-26 09:12:26 · answer #10 · answered by melbel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am 22 My Husband is 29.
We met through friends and just hit it off really well
We have been together for since I was 17
We have no REAL problems.
People all just think I am the same age as him because we have been together for so long that people don't think about it.
People bug him that he robbed the cradle and all that junk but they are just teasing
The way that we look at it is YOU CAN NOT HELP WHO YOU FALL IN LOVE WITH!!
2006-06-26 09:11:13 · answer #11 · answered by kiwi_08 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋