I'm sure most daughters and sons of elderly parents know that sometimes their parents will not be able to take care of themselves. Will the question is how will you tell them they need to be taken care of by professionals and not rely on you and their weak bodies to take care of them? Then there is the question what if they have to take alot or various drugs given by doctors to keep their bodies working properly, and what if they just refuse to put themselves to taking an abundance of medications? How will you tell them it's time to quit being a loner and start to lay down into their final years of their life?
2006-06-26 08:59:41 · 5 answers · asked by alien_dude_cinder05 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Have a long talk with their doctor. Doctors deal with these things all the time. Ask him for suggestions. Sometimes elderly people will listen to their doctor before they listen to anyone else.
2006-06-26 09:13:43 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have two elderly neighbors ,both americans, and both are close to 90 years old. They live by themselves. One man is by himself, his daughter visits him 2-3 times a day as she lives only few blocks away.
If your parents came to this country very late in their life then they are not used to live independant. But if they lived here for 30-40 years they do like to live independant,and also take care of themselves.
Do not force them to do anything they do not like. Let them enjoy what they have earned. As for the medication, explain them tht it is for their own good to take the medication regularly.
If for any reason they have to be hospitalized, then the doctor will recommend a retirement home or a nursing home.
2006-06-26 16:52:03 · answer #2 · answered by cookiedada 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Having just been thru this with my mom, I can empathize to a point. The advice to have their doctor talk to them is good. The key here is let them stay on their own for as long as they safely can. When that is no longer possible, you and their Doc should sit down and discuss options-home nursing, etc. The part about them not relying on you? You are their child who relied on them for your care, and now you cannot return the favor? Wow. You need to take a long look at yourself and decide what kind of person you are. I hope your kids are nicer to you in your golden years.
2006-06-26 20:52:55 · answer #3 · answered by Waferette 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's hard to do that man. if u watch any TV shows you know how much the old people hate being in there. like in the simpsons. so it's gonna be dam hard t do it without force. but if u really think that their life could be in danger and the WONT take medications. then i guess u should put them in a GOOD home. unless you want to care for them yourself
2006-06-26 16:11:53 · answer #4 · answered by xROADxKILLx 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know how you would tell them that they should go to a retirement home but I know that we crush up medicine and put it in pudding, which my grandfather likes.
Good luck
2006-06-26 16:05:25 · answer #5 · answered by Babygirl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋