Ok. I have this guy friend and i've been really good friends with fur a long time.
by friends i mean JUST friends.
I've always said to people NO we're just friends. I do NOT like "Like" him.
when we went to a dance he asked me to dance and i said no., im sorry, you are my friend but it would be too wierd.
now, he is ignoring me and calling all these other girls. but he says nothings wrong.
The thing is now, i realize i kinda do like "LIKE " him. and i said "no i wont dance" because i just tried convincing myself otherwise.
I don't know if i should tell him because it mite ruin our friendship.
PLEASE HELP!
2006-06-26 08:52:40 · 17 answers · asked by morning glory 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I really regret not dancing with him now...but what's strange is after the dance I saw him at an amusement park(he was by himself) and I had a really fun time with him, and after that he started ignoring me (I did/said absolutely nothing to offend him at the park.)
2006-06-26 11:14:05 · update #1
Well I'm not a guy but I bet if you two have been really good friend for a long time, I'm sure he'll get over whatever his little "fit" is about. And if I was you I would just tell him the truth... that you are sorry and that you like him! And tell him you just didnt want to dance cuz you thought it might ruin your friendship, but tell him you want more than that now and just see what he says. Sometimes people can have really good relationships after being good friend for a long time so just talk to him about it and see what happens.... and if he is still ignoring you then tell him if you're going to be immature and not talk then you're not even worth my time! cuz that's true you deserve better than that for a friend or boyfriend =) Hope I helped! Good luck!
2006-07-05 21:53:34 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
What it sounds like is that he was trying to gain more friendship in the past, but you "pushed" him away. There's only so much a person can take.
Besides, when he asked you to dance, why didn't you? It's not like you're having sex on the dance floor. It was only a dance. Big deal. You're too self-conscious and need to lighten up.
Friends can hug, flirt, whatever. It's no big deal. That's why you guys are "friends". Because you feel comfortable with each other's company. You are ruining that friendship by putting up that wall between you.
2006-06-26 15:57:43 · answer #2 · answered by Scott D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It will not ruin you friendship, it will only strenghten it. If you are friends you already have a bunch in common and that would make for a wonderful relationship. He already gave you a playful hint that he likes you by asking you for a dance, now that you rejected him he believes that you do not like him so he is seeking other women. Before its too late confront him with your feelings about him.
2006-06-26 15:57:10 · answer #3 · answered by shqiptare 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
(i'm not a boy but i answered anyway) looks like the friendship part is history anyway, if he's ignoring you and you aren't so sure you want to be just friends. so what have you got to lose? just go to him and tell him that you realize now that you "like" him and that you are sorry you didn't dance with him. if you don't think you can do it face to face, or if you have trouble seeign him, send it through the grapevine first. then just confirm it when you see him. after all, he took a chance when he invited you to dance. now it's your turn... you invite him.
good luck!
2006-06-26 16:00:35 · answer #4 · answered by gwenwifar 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him how u feel and have him over to your house turn on the radio and ask him he would like to dance since u won't with him at the dance tell him u want to make it up to him just tell him ur feelings and take it from there best of luck
2006-06-26 15:58:15 · answer #5 · answered by white_wizard 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would say u should try the relationship, but agree beforehand to have a plan b in case things go wrong so you can still save your friendship
"if we break up, let's wait exactly one week and try to do things as friends again, it doesn't matter that we can't be boyfriend girlfriend let's be friends again"
2006-06-26 15:55:36 · answer #6 · answered by johnson31415 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You made your choice, and you made it very clear to him how you regarded the relationship. Now you've changed your minde, but it's too late. Now you can just accept that you blew it, and he's going to go find someone else.
2006-06-26 15:54:53 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess he was hoping there could be something more. Now that he sees that there is nothing more he is moving on.
You lost your friend, good luck getting a new one.
2006-06-26 15:55:42 · answer #8 · answered by handydaddy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Isn't this similiar to meg griffin with neil goldmen
2006-06-26 16:04:29 · answer #9 · answered by G.I.B. ( Get It Boy ) 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate to break it to you, but, guys don't need females for friends.
Sorry. Get some female friends and move on.
2006-06-26 15:56:27 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋