I had a real connection with this guy years ago when i was 16 yrs old. Then i got into a 7 yr relationship with someone else and, since then, a few very short relationships. I've NEVER experienced the same connection or attraction since the guy i met when i was 16.
Yet I know that this guy from when i was 16, is the guy i am SUPPOSED to be with.
This guy appeared back in my life recently and things haven't gone according to plan.
But i know we are destined to be together. I am being serious by the way.
What can I do about him and the situation???
2006-06-26 08:49:55 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yea, i believe that theres one person in our lives that is destined to be with us. try to get closer to him by first and show that you still want to be his friend. first let your friendship grow and get back to the way it was. maybe then when you think that it is time to tell him, then tell him about your feelings towards him. all the best hope it works out! ^ ^
2006-06-26 08:57:41 · answer #1 · answered by *Shruti* 2 · 6⤊ 3⤋
I'd be willing to accept that it's not meant to be. It may happen it may not. In love, like in war the first casualty IS the plan. It's common to look back, and see things as more rosey than the looked at the time, but it's impossible to go there except in memory. Life, and experience shapes, and changes us every day. Who we are NOW is not who we were then. (I've been in your situation)
Trying to create the old "connection" again is the surest method to keep it from forming. It's tough having him/her around, but the truth is, after that first love, we never love anyone else quite the same.
I'd move on as best ya can. Telling yourself that there's only ONE soulmate out there will keep you from seeing Mr. Right when he finally comes around. If one believes in the 1soulmate deal, it's by definition NOT someone from your past. If it's meant to be, and isn't so, then it's coming in the future.
2006-06-26 16:15:19 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could have described my past. I dated a guy from 17 to 19 years old. When we broke up I was devastated, I later met my husband and was married fro 10 years and never had the connection to him that I had to the other. After spending 3 years on my own, I have recently met someone with whom I have that connection, only it is even better. He is my best friend, we talk about everything and the sex is AMAZING. So even though you thought you already met the right one, you may be surprised to find that he is still looking for you.
2006-06-26 15:55:29 · answer #3 · answered by Christina 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think theres more then 1 mr right. I think when you were infatuated with this guy at 16 was because you were so young... now you know what it takes to make or break a relationship so your more mature. I dont know why you feel you were destined to be together tho..... if you honestly feel that way, then talk to him to find out if what your doing makes him happy, if not, then change yourself.... if you were meant to be then have faith and trust in God and it will be.
2006-06-26 15:55:00 · answer #4 · answered by heavensent41770 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have had a similar experience and I went for it. We started to chill again and all the feelings that we had in high school came back and we have been together for the past 2 years. What I can tell you is that he is probably feeling the same way that you are so try to chill with him and go from there. Good luck.
2006-06-26 15:56:42 · answer #5 · answered by LL Cool J 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not me! I changed and grow way to much! I get new information all the time and that has the ability to change who I am....so There might be but I have not found one yet!
2006-06-26 15:53:52 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My wife is the only one for me and I'am the only one for her.How do I know this? we were married the first time for 25 years after renewing our vowes we have been married for 23 years.never divorced just wanted to renew after our silver anniversary.
We are as much in love as we were as newly weds 48 years ago.
Thank you for letting me brag about true love and how great it is.Good luck.
2006-06-26 15:59:54 · answer #7 · answered by I'm Jerry 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He was your first love. i think you'll always have some feelings for him. I had the same feeling about my first love, even today, after two years, nobody makes me feel like that.
unfortunately, most of us, don't get to stay with that person. but you've tried...nobody has the exact answer when it comes to these things.
if you really feel that he's the one, try again. but don't kid yourself, maybe he's not.
2006-06-26 15:59:01 · answer #8 · answered by Georgie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think there is on right person for everyone in life. I believe in a matcher who is God. people have things that they value a lot. There are people who value the same things, because God creates girls and boys.
2006-06-26 16:02:28 · answer #9 · answered by lucky 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, there are plenty more pebbles on the beach / fish in the sea - If it ain't working then call it off and find someone new!
2006-06-26 15:53:42 · answer #10 · answered by lunapilot 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ah, 1st love...be honest with yourself, if you feel good about being with him or not...that's one that you'll have to answer...is he good to you? Is he seeing someone else? Does he feel that same sense of 'destined to be together'?
2006-06-26 15:53:54 · answer #11 · answered by gokart121 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋