2006-06-26 08:49:33 · 5 answers · asked by SHAUN 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well, it can become a regular thing. And pretty soon you detach sex with romance. It happens a lot as people get older because romance becomes too much to ask for in a sexual relationship sometimes. And sex is a basic physical need just like eating and sleeping whereas romance is a mental want and not necessarily a physical need.
2006-06-26 08:55:38 · answer #1 · answered by Mancha de Platano 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well... Almost everybody with whom I've ever been close enough to talk about this subject has admitted to me that they got together with an ex at least once after the breakup. Not every person did with every ex, but most did with at least one. So it's common.
Is it OK? Depends on the circumstances, of course. Sometimes you need one last time to get them out of your system and move on. One friend confessed that after she had sex with her ex almost a year after the breakup, he went off about how guilty he felt over having cheated on his new GF and that was enough to finish it forever for her. She felt really bad (used, disillusioned) for a while, but it eventually helped get her over him completely.
Sometimes it can be part of the whole process of forgiving each other for all the crap you put each other through. Nothing says "I still like you" like getting squelchy with somebody.
However, it can become trouble if it's keeping you or your ex from getting on with your lives. If you've really decided you don't have a future together, then continuing to have sex will keep you tied to the past. And of course, if one of you has a new partner, as my friend found out, that brings up the whole issue of faithfulness (not to mention new STDs).
And finally, in rare cases you may actually end up getting back together. I broke up with "A" for a whole list of reasons. A week or so later I started going out with "B" and after a month or two noticed that relationship going sour for the same list of reasons. I clearly remember thinking "This is incredible! These two women are NOTHING alike, but both relationships are breaking up for the same reasons! I mean, the ONLY thing these two women have in common is that the're both in a relationship with -- um... Oh. I see."
Word of caution: these are the kind of things that every person has to discover on his or her own. You can't TELL your ex that he's an immature, irresponsible dork who is so afraid of committing to anything that he answers every yes-or-no question with "maybe" -- he has to figure it out for himself.
And if he does, having sex with you is a great time for him to tell you he finally got the Big Clue. What you do with this information is up to you...
2006-06-26 16:54:26 · answer #2 · answered by Scott F 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yep, No Strings Sex is the best.
2006-06-26 15:52:46 · answer #3 · answered by the_saint1963 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely!!! One can always call their ex for sex.
2006-06-26 15:53:43 · answer #4 · answered by vernise2679 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do as you please, be young, be foolish, be happy...live it up while you're young but make sure you aren't attached to him
2006-06-26 15:52:50 · answer #5 · answered by carolinayaya 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋