2006-06-26 08:21:53 · 16 answers · asked by love my kids 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
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Doesn't that selfishness go both ways?
She wants more so she is selfish...but he doesn't so doesn't that make him selfish too?
Now to answer your question you need to sit down and talk to him. Find out why he doesn't want more. And explain your side of it and why you do want more.
Be open and understanding with each other. No need to make it into a heated emotional battle. Just share your feelings.
Also give it time. Right now may not be the right time but in months or even a year maybe things will change!
2006-06-26 08:27:28 · answer #1 · answered by foolnomore2games 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thinking incrementally, does each additional child really cost that much more? I used to date the youngest of NINE. She had modest parents who were ordinary working people. Instead of being strapped, they had plenty. There seems to be an "economies of scale" effect that kicks in.
Is there that much more work and aggravation? The older ones can help with the younger ones. It will give them a sense of belonging and lighten the load.
So why not?
2006-06-26 15:28:23 · answer #2 · answered by sideshot72 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's really, truly against the idea of more children, nothing you say, suggest or do will convince him to want another one. You could trick him, but that would be just plain sh!tty, sneaky and mean.
Why, specifically, doesn't he want more children? If his reasoning is it would be financially tough (for example) you could tell him, "Well, Jack will soon be out of diaper, and Billy is going to start kindergarten this year, so no more daycare...we can afford to have another!" I don't know what your exact situation is, so I can't be more specific. Sorry.
2006-06-26 15:55:18 · answer #3 · answered by brevejunkie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you feel the need to control him and his opinions. Maybe he doesn't want more because for him...the relationship isn't all that great. Think about it...and ask him honestly why he doesn't feel like having more...and then think about accepting his answer instead of conniving like a spoiled child to get your way. Compromise might be needed here.
2006-06-26 15:26:56 · answer #4 · answered by J Somethingorother 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
take him to a school or daycare, somewhere where there are lots of kids, have the kids ask yes or no questions
2006-06-26 15:25:38 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't do that if I were you
he may do it out of love for you then resent it for the rest of his life and show it toward the kids
2006-06-26 15:25:46 · answer #6 · answered by Mr nice guy 2U 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find out first why he does not want anymore kids. Then work on it.
2006-06-26 15:24:54 · answer #7 · answered by cybergal_29 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont. If he doesnt want more kids then he'll probably has his reason (maybe it's only that he dont want coz he dont want). You're in a relatioship and you must respect each others opinion in sth such serious as kids....
2006-06-26 16:09:04 · answer #8 · answered by smaragda 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry but I don't think there is any way to get someone to agree to that if they don't want it...be happy where you are in life and treasure it...Goodluck.
2006-06-26 15:26:14 · answer #9 · answered by Bitch 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why more kids? guess 2 is enough if you have lots of kids you will lose all your time to u'r hubby..
2006-06-26 15:25:27 · answer #10 · answered by Terry 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋