I am really worried about the way my life is going right now....?

Question

I have job issues and something going on (possibly going on) with a guy i really like. But I know deep down it will never work anyway.
I seem to spend a lot of my time feeling sick with nerves and sometimes even struggling for breath.
What can I try to do to make myself feel calmer and more steady?
I build things up a lot to be more important than they maybe are and just cant seem to relax.
My future scares me...

Answer 1

1) Millions of people feel and experience the same things so try not to feel as if you are defective and alone. The qualifier is: how much do these situation affect your life, small, medium or huge problem?

2) Your reaching out, that is the best thing to do. However, the net probably is not the best place to do so. (even though you have run into me)

3) Find a professional to talk to. Call a hot-line. Family and friends are OK but many times are more harmful than helpful. It is important to be able to express yourself in a safe environment.

4) Meditation can be extremely effective if practiced enough. Done everyday for a month (5 minutes) and the steps will become automatic. Then when faced with something stressful taking a deep breath will calm you. (it is that simple)

5) You DESERVE to feel better about yourself.

Answer 2

If you know it won't work with this guy...why continue to see him? That will take care of that situation.

As for the job, you can also always find a new job. That's one thing an employee has over an employer at any time. Sure its a pain in the rear, but they make it that way so more people don't leave.

The future shouldn't scare you, it should be an exciting time of "what's going to happen next and how can I make it good"? Have confidence in yourself. Worrying about things doesn't help in any way at all!

Answer 3

It sounds like anxiety or depression to me. You are worrying about things that are under your control but you don't know how to control them. Sit back and take a good look at what is making you feel bad and see where you can change them. Try not to think the worst of things and try looking for the good. Try not to take things to heart that are trivial and push them aside to make room for things that are really important. Yeah, its easier said than done but you are the one and only person that can make a change. No person or medicine can do that, they only help the with coping of the problem. Now, I'm not advising you to sit back and wait for it to get worse, you do need to call a doctor and go talk with someone with experience.

Answer 4

Wow story of my life too gurl. Im a firm believer in "everything happens for a reason". Life my be crap right now but it will pan out. I completly understand your situation. Ive been working dead end jobs, have 2 kids that im raising, Im in love with my boyfriend but know it will never work. I live with my ex inlaws for right now for christ sakes lol. But in the end there will be a reason for it all. Im the most nervous dramatic person on the face of the planet and the best advise i can give you is wake up everyday do what you got to do and then stand back and be patient. Its easier said than done but hey, everything happens for a reason.

Answer 5

Hi sweetie, I hope you don't mind that I call you that. It sounds like you are unsure of a lot of things in your life and are confused which can cause breathing problems, anxiety, low tolerance to illness, hives, excema, etc. You sound young and have been able to identify what is causing your feelings. I hear Yoga is a real relaxing way to calm down, also, if you are into God, pray or read this book, it helped me a lot, it is called 'The Purpose Driven Life'.
I hope this helps you, and remember, you are not alone.

Answer 6

First of all, you need to relax. I know you know this and I also know you don't know how to do this on your own. But you can!! Trust me, you really can! If taking a long, hot bath doesn't help or spending some time with your friends then perhaps you may need to talk to your doctor. I personally don't like the idea either but if it is affecting your everyday life, then you really need to do it. He may refer you to someone else and if that's the case, do it. I've been there myself and I'm finally comfortable and able to deal with issues much better! Life is short, you have control of your own life. No one else does, so it's up to you to change it and believe me, YOU can!! Good luck and write if you need to talk!

Answer 7

Start by thinking and praying about what you want to do in 5 years (career-wise). What will it take to get there? Create a plan that will take you where you want to go in life. It will take a lot of the worries out since you will have a plan.

About the guy...if you know it's not going to work out, let him go and keep looking till you find a guy you know it will work out with.

Answer 8

try to find a way to reduce the stress in your life, first off, look elsewhere for a boyfriend if you know this will never go anywhere.

raise your sights and try to determine what it would take to make you happy tomorrow, next year or 10 years from now. Dreams don't have to stay dreams.

Answer 9

You may have Panic anxiety, or maybe a medical condition like Asthma or allergies or a lung disorder. See a doctor then if no medical condition see a therapist. Just think of it just by doing that they could help you you could reach your goals and live a happy, romantic, successful, exciting, life!!!

Answer 10

sounds like you are really struggling. You need to give your life to the Lord! He is the One who gives me Strength, gives me direction, gives me Joy and Peace. Nothing else in this world is able to do that. This world is a crazy place! God has sent his Son Jesus to die for our sins so that we could spend eternity with Him when we die, and have a relationship with Him now. All you have to do is believe that, and turn yourself to Him. Without Him, I'd spend eternity in Hell! Get a Bible and start reading the book of John...it'll be a great comfort to you.