I am in India, but am multi ethnic, hence have a very varied set of beliefs. I have been with a Indian girl for the past 3 years, but she she has cheated me many times and is in more ways than 1, not the kind of girl that I would want to be with. But she is madly in love with me, and would cry to death if I break up with her. She does not believe in the same kind of things that I believe in, we do not dress similarly, dont have the same hobbies, have different pasttimes, and so on.. But recently, I met a girl on Yahoo Answers, and she is an American in the US, and we instantly clicked !! She has kids out of a previous marriage but is in my age group. I think she loves me a lot. But I definately love her and her kids a whole lot. The distance between us is excrutiating and I constantly miss her. I have a lot of things planned for our future together and I broke up with my current girlfriend. I never believed in Online relationships,
2006-06-26 08:19:19 · 5 answers · asked by stillfreezing 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
..because for all that you know, the other person could be all that he/she says she isnt. (If you know what I mean)
But I love her a LOT. I even sent her a gift certificate for her daughters' bday, and have bought presents for her sons' and her bday which is coming soon. We hve exchanged photographs and I am totally zany about her. When she called me over the mobile phone, she sounded very neutral !! But over the past couple of weekends, we havent been able to talk and I am going crazy. Am I doing something wrong or is there something that smells fishy?? I have never felt like this before, and I find myself constantly planning ahead and thinking how to make her and our kids feel special and taken care of. Am I been paranoid?? My Colleagues are jealous of me. My Friends are happy for me, and my Family is glad for me. I am like a man on morphine, with the kind of high that you think will last. But I am too old to be infatuated !!! Any advice??
2006-06-26 09:06:33 · update #1
Online relationships can have the instantaneous spark of knowledge that tells you that you have met someone whom you just can't be without. It also has caused broken marriages, lost frieindships and destroyed people when the person at the other end was after only one thing and once obtained, carried on to someone else.
My suggestion is to get to know each other very well before either of you make the move to be with the other in their country. I have two sons who have met women this way (online) and luckily the unions have been very successful. But this isn't always the case.
You are leaving one relationship behind where you were cheated against, and entering into another where you know the basics but not the deep down facts. Just as you wouldn't move in with someone whom you'd just met on the street, you shouldn't move into a relationship (particularly with children involved) without first being very certain you know as much as you possibly can about each other.
Visits, are fine, this assists in learning more and getting more involved, slowly. Don't move to the US right away however, unless that is something you had planned to do anyway.
Her children will want a "dad" in their lives and if they become attached to you and you to them, it will be harder if this relationship dies out. Take this relationship the same way you would if it where anyone whom you had an interest in. Learn all you can about each other and from there, you'll discover the next step.
Take it slow...you have a lifetime to know each other, but that can be like a living hell if its the wrong union.
2006-06-26 08:33:14 · answer #1 · answered by dustiiart 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If true love is in the air for you, it must be your decision whether or not to follow true love's call. If you think that this path will make you happy, then you owe it to yourself to follow it. Take care, and good luck, my friend!
2006-06-26 15:23:24 · answer #2 · answered by Collin R 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be weary of a woman that pursues you while you are with another, as when you are single, you will not be a challenge anymore and quite possibly the american will not want you anymore....Trust me on this as I have been with a few like that...Oh and I am an american and know what we are like..
2006-06-26 15:24:17 · answer #3 · answered by chalpin07 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I CAN see it. And it is spelled TROUBLE. You seem to have a loose interpretation of what love means.
2006-06-26 15:23:59 · answer #4 · answered by Awesome Bill 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you lost me at "i am in india..."
2006-06-26 15:23:40 · answer #5 · answered by twentythree 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋