my bf is engaged forcfully to another gal.his parents r against us.will talkin 2 the gal do any good?

Question

we have made love many tyms.WE LOVE EACH OTHER ALOT.But his parents are adamant and are not ready to agree with my bf.Will talking to his fiance do any gooD.We both fear A relationship even after he gets married.We are trying our best.yet stuck with the question whether telling his fiance will do any good or not

Answer 1

His fiance does not deserve a cheating husband. Someone needs to let the poor girl know what a weak-willed, mamas boy her fiance is. You seem to have a lot of integrity...why dont you tell her? lol

Answer 2

Your boyfriend is leaving out some vital information in this equation. There is no reason any man can be forced to be joined for the remainder of his life against his will. Even if the parents did not like you he has the right to forego marriage. Even Prince Charles was able to marry whom he wanted, the laws were changed so that he wouldn't have to abdicate the throne. Wake up.

In answer to your question, leave the fiancee alone. If she was pregnant and this was a shotgun marriage, it still would not matter. They could get married in name only if there was that type of agreement and then divorce after a respectful period of time. However, no one has shotgun marriages any more, they always hurt the child involved.

Answer 3

if your bf really loves you then he's making a huge mistake by marrying this other girl. her life could be ruined. but then if he really loves you why is he engaged? the both of u need to talk this out then decide whether or not u should tell his fiance. but a forced marriage by his parents won't make anyone happy in the end.

Answer 4

how are they forcing him to get married? please don't stay in this dysfunctional situation. if your boyfriend REALLY loves you, he will break off the engagement and move away from his family to be with you, regardless of whatever they are holding over his head. no amount of inheritance or money, not even a relationship with your family is worth being in a situation where you are forced to be unhappy and do things you don't want to do. if your boyfriend doesn't do everything in his power to stop this from happening then that means you are NOT at the top of his priority list and you should move on and find someone else. even though its painful, it will be more painful in the long run to be the "other woman". are you sure your boyfriend is being completely honest with you about whats going on and his feelings for the fiancee? to answer your question, i think the two of you should DEFINITELY tell her what's going on, so she isn't lied to, and doesn't end up with a broken heart and in a bad situation she can't get out of.

Answer 5

I really think if he loved you a lot he would not let his parents tell him who to marry. I have no idea where your from or how old you are, but in this time, parents don't usually make arranged marriages, and if they do , people are free to decline. Are you absolutely sure he is being "forced" into engagement?

Answer 6

If he has a fiance and is planning to marry her, then you aren't his girlfriend. You are booty call. He would be happy to continue this after he gets married. I have to ask you, how is he being forced into marriage? He needs to be a man and stand up for what he wants. You don't want a husband who has to answer to his parents, that is just obnoxious.

Answer 7

Why do you wish to cause pain to an innocent girl? You both are behaving with dishonor towards your families, and to his fiance. Also, learn the difference between love and lust. Just because you have had a "lot" of sex, does not mean you are in love. Physical attraction is a chemical reaction and you will experiance it a lot in your life, are you going to sleep with every person you feel attracted to? Do you think a physical attraction automatically means you are emotionally "in love"? If you do you are very young and immature.

Also, this boy knew he was engaged to this other girl, he knows ihs parents will not approve of him getting married to any other but her. You are being used by this boy. I doubt he even spoke with his parents. You are young and naive. I am sorry honey, but it is just the facts of life. I am sorry you are going to be so hurt. Are you going to ruin your own life by being this guys mistress while he has a wife at home he honors? Are you going to pass up your own opportunity to be honored by a husband? This guy is not going to marry you after he already is receiving sex from you. He has no respect for you, as his culture does not allow for him to feel respect for girls who give up sex without marriage. Deep inside him he has no respect for you at all, nor does he care if you get a good husband who will respect you. If he can have his wife and you on the side, if you let him, then why should he stop? If he is using you he will also use another girl later on. This is his beleaf system and if you are in the same culture then you have dishonored yourself. If not, then you do not understand his culture. Are you going to have children with him as his mistress for as long as you are young and he still finds you attractive? When he is tired of you and moves on to the next, younger girl, what are you going to do, how are you going to support your children. His parents will not recognize your children as they will not consider them legitimate. Sad but true. Also sad but true, is you have been taken for a ride dear. Your youth and innocence allowed you to believe his lies. I hope you leave him and find real happiness with a man who will love and cherish you as you so deserve. If he is even asking you to stay with him after he is married that should show you he intends on marrying this girl. That he is asking you to be his mistress shows how little respect or real care he has for you or your future. He is only thinking of himself and his selfish desires and sexual needs. sorry to tell you the truth so bluntly, but maybe you will thank me in the future. Blessed Be.

For those of you who do not understand listen to this: Many cultures still have parents who pick the spouses of their children. This is very common and it is accepted practice. The children are raised with this understanding and accept the reality of their culture. For them there is nothing odd in parents picking the spouse. Often spouses are choosen while the children are very young. Children in these cultures respect their parents and what they decide for their children in a way kids in the U.S could never understand. This is just a difference in cultures and it works for them. Very simple actually. This boy is not really being forced. He accepts the decision his parents made and probably has not really spoken with them about the girl who asked this question. There are those here in the U.S of A, who know parents will ultimently choose the spouses of their children. Usually someone from the home country. The new spouse comes right before the wedding and then stays with her husband and his family.

Answer 8

What?! Have you talked to his parents? Are you sure he is just not telling you that? I mean, I don't think that can happen, and if he is such a pussy, then you don't want to be with him anyway. Plus sounds like the parent-in-law could be scary. Dump his ***, you know he is "making love" to his fiance too.

Answer 9

What country are you in? Because in most countries no one can force him to marry anyone.He can just tell his parents that this is his life and he should get to choose his wife. That whole arranged marriage thing is so 300 years ago. It isn't fair to the fiancee that he will most likely be cheating on her through their whole marriage. If parents won't listen, maybe fiancee will.

Answer 10

Move on. Get a new boy friend. There are too many problems here--his parents dislike of you, his disceiving his fiance, just to name 2.