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Little kids rarely listen. You have to show them boundaries if arguing doesn't help (most likely). Tell her she has to stand in the corridor if she does it again and follow through. She may cry for a while or throw a tantrum. Stand your ground. If you show her you do what you say, she'll come to trust you for providing solid playground and feel much safer.

2006-06-26 07:46:17 · answer #1 · answered by Shining Star 4 · 0 0

This is your problem, and not your child's. You obviously fail to establish and maintain your parental authority.
Subsequently the child is challenging you and testing the limits. That is normal for a child, which is looking for directions and the order from above.
Be not violent - neither verbally nor physically - since that would make things worse. When your child does "naughty" things, it is looking for attention. If you react by giving attention, the child will have won and do it all over again.
So next time "naughty" things happen, just ignore them. You will have to be strong on this and stick to the principle. You might in certain cases have to clean or clear up a place later, but do that only when the child does not see you.
In most cases this should solve the problem after a while. If not, you should consult a child psychologist.

2006-06-29 07:22:15 · answer #2 · answered by Sean F 4 · 0 0

Kneel down so you are eye-level with and tell her that if she does it again you'll put her on the naughty step. Make it a punishment to have to sit on the stairs for about 5 minutes if she does it again make her sit on the stairs until she apologises. Or you could tell her to go into a room that has no one in it and cool off until she is ready to apologise. If she gets of the naughty step or comes out of the room, don't say anything or look her in the eye, just carry her back in and persevere, the more you practise this treatment the better she will behave. Don't let her see if you are fed up, or aggravated she'll just think it is funny!! I really do hope this helped, and that she grows up to be a polite well -behaved child!!

2006-06-26 07:55:37 · answer #3 · answered by enyamarie@btinternet.com 2 · 0 0

All that girl needs is some good old fashion discipline you give her a good wack on the a**. I guarantee that you will not have that problem anymore!! Some people suggest the corner and the naughty step that rarely works because usually the child will leave and you will get fed up over the situation and do something that might be detrimental to you and your child's relationship.

2006-06-26 08:02:04 · answer #4 · answered by roro8807 1 · 0 0

By five years of age she should be able to tell the difference between right & wrong. It is up to you to make her realise that she has rules to stick to.
Start by having Time-out sessions when she mis-behaves. Make her stand in the Time-out corner for 15 minutes with no toys, books, pets, chat or anything. Do this everytime she plays up & she will soon learn you mean what you say.
The trick to it is Do Not Give In No Matter How Much She Cries & Whines. If you give in then she has won & it will never get better.
Imagine ahwt she will be like by the time she is 13.

2006-07-02 09:46:53 · answer #5 · answered by monkeyface 7 · 0 0

you need to be firm and consistent with her - whatever consequence you choose (spanking, time out, lose of privledge, etc.), just make sure you enforce it when the naughty behavior occurs. I would also reccommend that you try some positive praise when she is being good too. You can say good job listening, we are proud of you, clap, jump, sing, whatever works for you and your child. Give her stickers, marbles, points, checks, whatever is appealing to her and managabl for you. Then when she earns so many points, stickers, whatever you have decided on, she can trade those in for a reward like a day with mom, picking out a movie to rent or go see, a special treat or dessert, going to a friends house or having a friend over - again whatever is appealing to her and manageable for you. Good luck and I hope some of this helps!!

2006-06-26 07:50:24 · answer #6 · answered by pammy_6201 4 · 0 0

Welcome to parenthood! That happens a lot. There are several good books on how to discipline kids. You need to find out what kind of discipline will make your child listen. Some kids just have to be put in "time out", some don't care about time out and need to have a favorite toy taken away for a while. Some just plain need theit butt spanked! I know that's not politically correct, but with some kids, it's the only thing that works.

Do some reading on the subject.

2006-06-26 07:50:21 · answer #7 · answered by David T 4 · 0 0

she certainly gets your attention when she does those naughty things...sound like not pointed enough discipline, structure, and happy attention to her good behavior.

You and you spouse are in charge of your home and set the values, so believe in them and yourself. You are not helpless, just afraid to discipline and take the time to learn about parenting. Try reading the "Tough Love" book...and going to a few classes.

It helps to plan out your actions (punishments/consequences) before confronted. Then it's easier to move to swift judgement.
Sure she will react...just stay on course, don't explain or bargain, and before you realize it...she's not acting out. She will learn "consequences" really quickly. You will be more fond of her and she will love it!

I have been there...do not put up with such behavior now because you will cry when she is a teenager and acting out from her long bad habits.....she may damage herself and everyone will suffer for a long time.

Read and go to classes....both of you! Raise a great kid who respects her parents, self and others...we need her!

2006-06-26 08:10:16 · answer #8 · answered by snusique 1 · 0 0

Show her who's boss. If she doesn't get better with a little smack (if its still legal where you stay of course!) then take stuff away from her until she can behave. Or get her to go and sit on the "naughty step" till she behaves and every time she gets up put her back onto the step till she behaves - (saw it on that TV show supernanny, i dont have a child so cannot speak from experience!)

2006-06-26 07:50:30 · answer #9 · answered by Showaddywaddy 5 · 0 0

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2016-11-15 07:05:04 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 0 0

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