but then u discover that he is someone else.... completely diferent. it is as if u loved a person with a mask on but when u get to know him closer that sweet mask dissappears and teh true face is shown. iam passing by this thing now.. how can i get over it!! serious answers thanks!!
2006-06-26 07:42:47 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
give yourself time to get over him, and then move on to find the right guy for you.
2006-06-26 07:45:50 · answer #1 · answered by Coodles 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really loved him the first time, then i hate to say it, but i think you have been deceived. Becareful who you love. True love is knowing the person inside and out, with all the good and all the flaws but loving them inspite of their flaws. If you didnt know him, then you didnt love him, you should feel too guilty it happens more often than you think. Some people are just better at their means of manipulation and deception than others. Is he still a good person after the mask fades away? do u think you will be able to give him a second chance. If you get to know the true him and find that you dont like it, dont let the fascade of love blind you. Cut your losses and move on, and most importantly learn from this. Our experience in life makes us who we are, everything happens for a reason and you just have to trust that when the right person comes along, he will be honest and open with you so you can see who he really is right from the beginning :)
2006-06-26 14:57:11 · answer #2 · answered by Mezee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends.
If the mask he was showing was totally unlike he is now that is a bad thing. It means he was trying to manipulate you and now he thinks you love him he can treat you how ever he wants. Dump him.
People change over time but it should be parts of them, and gradually, not like they are a totally different person. Get away from him before you commit yourself to the two faced toad.
2006-06-26 14:48:20 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
girl I am going through the same thing right now. I am so in love with someone, and he's really not worth being in love with, but I can't help it. He's a completely different person than who I thought he was when I met him three years ago, but I still can't let go, because I'm always expecting him to suddendly "come back" or prove me wrong or something. let me tell you, he never will. people like this are not meant for us, they, AND US, are meant for someone that we havent met yet, someone not two-faced and rediculously complicated. We don't need this in our lives.
my suggestions for getting over it is just listen to what you really want out of life, whether that be what you really want in a man, in friendships, in your job, your personal goals, things that really make you happy, and chances are they won't include him. try and focus on what makes you happy! make yourself not dwell on what you miss or wish would be in him, and focus on what you want for yourself and make it happen!
good luck ;)
2006-06-26 14:49:23 · answer #4 · answered by XsylviaO 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes what we think of a person is completely different in the beginning of a relationship, and then you settle in and realize he is not quite as wonderful as you previously thought... take some time, talk, see if you can work out your problems... but it's always possible that it just won't work between you two... good luck!
2006-06-26 14:46:21 · answer #5 · answered by lizwatson109 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes......my ex husband was like that.....he was sweet and very gentlemen like while we dated the first few months....then he asked me to marry him and he began cheating on me and verbaly abusing me. I was 17 and never had a real boy friend before so I stayed with him and after 2 years we married. I was pregnate in 3 months and then it all changed. He began physically abusing me......trying to choke me and kicked me all through the pregnacy. I tried to file a report on him but they said that his parents would come and bale him out and he would serve not one night in jail. So I stayed 4 years.....finally got out 12 years ago and now my son is 14 and he has a terrible violent behavior.....so if you have no kids with the guy leave now...because he will get visitation and you will always be tied to this man.
2006-06-26 14:56:15 · answer #6 · answered by kim 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well,it`s really hard,but you`re gonna be surprised-it happens all the time.Try not to talk with this person,a mean not to talk with him or her frequently,because it`s very bad and dangerous to have a friendship with a person that is a total asshole!!!!
I truly wish you luck.Be careful.:)
2006-06-26 14:51:40 · answer #7 · answered by Redgie R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmm that is difficult. Many people are chameleons. Find some one new . Try to learn from this and then put it all behind you.
2006-06-26 14:47:40 · answer #8 · answered by jeff7241 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
seek professsional help. That is very hard to get over I hope your not still with this person coz he might just hurt you and that wopuld be devistating.
2006-06-26 14:47:09 · answer #9 · answered by kayla 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you might not. love lasts forever. (theoretically)
2006-06-26 14:45:51 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋