Do you guys think that long distance relationship works?if not why!?

Question

well me and this person have a long distance relationship. i live in chicago and they live in south calorinia. what should i do though we love each oter we just have not see each other for 4 weeks. what should i do?

Answer 1

It just doesn't work out well. There's always that part of a relationship that needs the physical aspects. If they're not physically there, it can be very rough.

Answer 2

Actually, it depends on how far we are talking. Me and my husband met through a hacker who broke into my password and sent @ 100 emails in my name with a trojan comp. virus and a porno picture of a hairy lady. LOL Anyway, he lived an hour and a half away from me, but we put the effort and the time in to see each other whenever we could. When we started getting serious, which was really only 2 months into the relationship we started thinking how great it would be to have sleepovers. If you can spend a few days with your love then the whole long distance thing will work; however, there must be plenty of effort put into it. You have to communicate. That is the best advice I can give you? Hope my story helped. :)

Answer 3

OK-- I have done this before, not quite that far, but the long distance thing none the less. Just like any relationship it will take work, I recommend lots of phone time. I would suggest that you see each other as often as possible. I know with different schedules it is hard to get together time, but do things to let them know you are thinking of them. Emails are great, as are cute little cards and such. If you both are devoted to it, it can work, but realistically where is this going? Are you going to cut the distance in the future or is it always going to be this way? Some things to think about...GOOD LUCK!!!

Answer 4

First of all, I live in Chicago, too...it rocks! Anyway, long distance relationships are just really, really hard. I would guess you talk to each other every day right? As for what you should do, that depends on your age. If you're in college or younger, obviously you're stuck where you are and should spend summer, winter, and spring break together. If you're an adult, then you can't let it go on. If you really love him like you say, you should move. Otherwise, you can't let your life go on like that. I'm sure both of you are missing physical love!? If not, you're cheating on each other. One last point....follow your heart and don't ask for help with love from strangers on the internet :D

Answer 5

Well if you two have been going out for more than 6 months then you should think about moving - if your going to school than hold off tell you finish but make sure you see each other at least once a month. If you do not do something soon one of you may find someone else or just loose your love for one another. I met my guy through the Internet and we met one month after meeting and I packed my bags and moved 10 hours away to be with him just 4 months later. Good luck to you.

Answer 6

Honey, I live in Brazil and had a bfriend who lived in Seattle for almost 3 years and it just ended because we finally understood we have waaaaaay too different personalities :)
Now, Im engaged to a guy who lives 1000 miles from me, we´ve been together for 2 and a half years and plan on marrying next year, he´s Brazilian and we dont spend more than a month apart. Its working great, so far. If there´s love, distance wont matter.

Answer 7

Presuming you didn't meet on the internet....arrange to meet regulary. Arrange phone calls and chats over the internet. Send emails every other day, just to say hi, how are you?

Long term if you don't move closer your relationship won't work. People need intimacy in a relationship, you don't get that at long distance, that is why long distance relatinships fail. That and the lack of trust that creeps in for most people.

Answer 8

I think that if you are going to have this relationship then you need to at least speak on the phone, email, or im the other person. Don't just wait until you see each other. To have a relationship grow it involves getting to know each other....even the simple things like food, music....etc, are very important in a growing relationship. One thing for sure when you do get to see each other i bet you have skyrockets go off....hehehe!!
Just go with the flow and enjoy what you have. Time will tell!!!

Answer 9

depends. i was with my ex for almost 5 months while she was in iraq and i was in the states. but we had been together for half a year before she left. then recently she went to korea and i came to iraq and we didn't even last three weeks before she went and found someone else. over there military women are treated like queens and almost everyone drinks and parties all the time. Most people i talk to say that almost everyone that goes there either cheat or break up with their partner. I guess it's that and the fact that she looked at that we wouldn't see each other for a year. but as long as you guys have good communication and make plans on seeing each other it can work.

Answer 10

It probably won't work. There are ways to communicate and for awhile, you can talk to each other and email each other. But sometimes it's hard to keep in touch.

You get involved with school, friends and family, so time sort of messes it up. I wouldn't make it too serious. Just have fun for now. It's like a summer romance, which you will find out only lasts the summer.

Answer 11

They totally work, but it can be difficult at times. My husband and I had a long distance relationship. Now we are married and very happy. Also, both of his sisters had long distance relationships. They are also both married to these men and are very happy. A lot of people have made it work. If you really love this person, you can make it work! Email eachother, talk on the phone, try to make plans to see eachother. You can do it!