ok i live in florida and my girl lives in louisiana and she likes to dance and stuff but i dont like her going to partys and clubbin n stuff cuz i dont like to think about the stuff thats going on in there...am i wrong for not letting her go or not?? I TRUST HER TO
2006-06-26 07:29:19 · 42 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you really trusted her, you wouldn't have a problem knowing she was out partying without you!
2006-06-26 07:32:12 · answer #1 · answered by thersa33 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you are. That is not fair to her especially if you trust her. Doing this is just going to bring fights cuz if she does go out after you asked her not to, and I say asked cuz the only people that could tell her to do any thing is her parents, and she does any way that's going to be a big problem. Trust her until she gives you a reason not to. You wouldn't want to be stuck inside all the time in Florida if she asked you to stay home.
2006-06-26 07:35:15 · answer #2 · answered by sexzbich 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you trust your girlfriend, it would seem you have a fine relationship, but to ask her Not to do something, that she clearly enjoys doing, is selfish. One must not force his Will upon another person. Young people need friendships and sitting at the end of a very long phone line, waiting for a call, just doesn't fill that need! I suggest you be understanding and stop fearing what will happen if your girl goes to parties and clubs. If she loves you, she will think twice about betraying your trust.!
2006-06-26 07:36:30 · answer #3 · answered by bpember744@sbcglobal.net 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think this is so much about trust as it is about respecting the person you are with. Long distance relationships are hard enough and if the two of you do not share the same values then that makes things harder yet. I don't think you are wrong for not wanting her to go out provided you also live by that rule. I also do not think she is wrong for wanting to go out. I think that the two of you have different views and values. Not to say one is right or wrong, just different. My advise is to really look at your relationship and decide if the two of you have the same values, if not then you will be much happier with someone who does share your value system.
2006-06-26 07:41:39 · answer #4 · answered by B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know how you feel. there will always be the people who say that you dont trust her. but, i think that its just the thought of what may happen. it isnt a good thought and im sure it drives you crazy. however, not letting her go would be a bad thing. i would talk to her about how it makes you feel, and see if maybe she could dance with just her girl friends.
2006-06-26 07:35:43 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not "letting her go"?? She isn't a possession. You can tell her you feel uncomfortable when she goes. Then the ball is in her court on whether or not she wants to keep you feeling comfortable or if this clubbing is more important to her. In my honest opinion, she should be able to go clubbing with her friends and you should be able to go hang out with your friends in your venue of choice. Long distance relationship will be hard enough without all the "rules and restrictions" that are based out of jealousy. If she loves you, nothing will happen. And if something happens then it would of without the clubs or not. "Let" her go.
2006-06-26 07:41:47 · answer #6 · answered by affleckhawk 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you might tell her she cant go but you live in florida and she is in louisiana so how do you know that she is really at home or out clubbin.
2006-06-26 07:35:20 · answer #7 · answered by browneyedgirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am in a similiar situation. My boyfriend doesnt live that far away, but he hates it when I go out with my girlfriends. He thinks we are up to no good since all of my girlfriends that I hang out with are single. Its true we go out and dance and yes they dance with boys, but that doesnt mean that I am doing anything wrong. I like dancing so I dance with my girls, no guys. .. My only question to you is, what does your girl say when you mention goign along with them? Does she freak out or is she okay with it? See if she freaks out, then I think there could be a problem, not sayign there is, but there is a good chance. I like going out but my boyfriend is more than welcome to come along. He does sometimes, and that gives him the chance to see how I act. This has helped him open up a little more to me going out with my girlfriends. Good luck in your decision.
2006-06-26 07:40:34 · answer #8 · answered by raidernation12 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust is the key in this situation because obviously your girlfriend enjoys partying and clubbing.
2006-06-26 07:34:54 · answer #9 · answered by Sheketria 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm in Florida too, maybe we should get together and do stuff too, you know. Then you wont have to worry about what she's doing. Long distance sucks!
2006-06-26 07:35:32 · answer #10 · answered by Fleur 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋