A 13 yr old girl shares a bedroom with her 16 or old sister. The 13 yr old says to the 16 yr old that she doesn't like to share a room with her because she feels that she is older and need more privacy. Whenever she is in the bedroom and her 16 yr old sister walk in, she would say to her sister "You are always here when I am here. I am fair with you by letting you be in this room alone many times and you never let me be in this room alone. You are never fair with me. I wish I don't have to share a room with you" The 16 yr old says "I am not being unfair. This is my room too. I can come in here anytime I want to." The 13 yr old blame the 16 that she can't have her own room. Is this reasonable? There are only 2 room in their house, one for parents, one for them. It's not the 16 yr old's fault. So why is the 13 yr old blaming the 16 for it?
2006-06-26 07:27:45 · 11 answers · asked by youngwoman 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
shes 13 (apparently the baby of the family too) she thinks its her job to be rude and a pain in the butt to the older sibling. Tell your parents whats going on and just go to your room she'll eventually get over it and no its not fair but welcome to the joy of sister hood.
tell her first of all im older so this is my room so im nice by letting you in here got a problem w/ it then get out theres a couch !
2006-06-26 07:34:36 · answer #1 · answered by Peaches 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
because she doesn't want to blame herself for not giving or getting any privacy. She can't blame the parents, so the only person left to blame is the 16 yr old.
The 16 yr old really should have her own room, if it were possible. At that age a 16 yr old needs to start streching her independace a little and that means having a room to herself.
I know that with just 2 rooms, it's not easy, but try to make the best of it.
2006-06-26 07:34:55 · answer #2 · answered by David T 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hang a huge sheet up.. right down the middle of the room. Get the sheets at yard sales or thrift stores. You can screw eye hooks in the ceiling and hang the sheet from that. There are clip on curtain hooks. You both need your privacy. When I shared with my sister we hung the sheets. It really helps just not being able to see the other.
(and the 13yr old is blaming the 16 yr old because the 13yr old is
the bossy one.) Every family has one. You will survive and be best friends. We are.
2006-06-26 07:54:39 · answer #3 · answered by Mache 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know in other countries, there are familys sharing one room huts. I think you both need to be thankful for what you have. Maybe sitting and talking nicely........to each other, coming to some agreement on what I call... alone time! That would work like this....everyday at a certain time the 13yr old would get alone time for an hour and a half, and the 16yr can have her alone time as well, for an hour and a half.
2006-06-26 07:55:54 · answer #4 · answered by myocean 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with the idea of hanging a sheet to divide the room so you can't see each other. I somewhat agree with the 13 year old. I'm 13 and like my space. Then again, everyone does. It's a good thing that their not brother/sister. That'd just be plain weird for me.
2006-06-26 08:12:54 · answer #5 · answered by roxy81492 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The 13 year old needs to get over it, the house is too small for another room, She needs to be thankful that she has a roof over her head. What a brat!
2006-06-26 07:32:57 · answer #6 · answered by Jen S 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is still very much a kid and needs someone to blame. Unfortunately, you are it. There isn't much you can do, except maybe ask a parent to talk to her about not harping on it. Nothing can be done to change the situation, so she needs to let it go!
2006-06-26 07:35:10 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
that isn't fair you are right.
teenage attitude is probably why the 13 year old feels so um...crowded, the 13 year old probably just feels bad because of school and she is self concious w/e it is its not your fault, I don't think she is actually mad at you, I think her anger just comes out when you are there, your being there triggers the anger.
At least thats what I think, and I am 13 =P so ya...
2006-06-26 07:34:17 · answer #8 · answered by Sofy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because she's 13 and her sister is 16 and they're both whiny, typical teenagers.
You'll both grow out of it. Till then just deal.
2006-06-26 07:32:27 · answer #9 · answered by Miss Red 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sucks to be your parents, whenever you fight, your parents will feel bad for not able to give everything their children need/want and already doing the best they could
so both of you have to grow and be nice to each, stop being selfish
2006-06-26 09:53:11 · answer #10 · answered by jean 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋