What is the hardest thing about being a step-parent?

Answer 1

That you love them as much as they are your own child, but sometimes when they are angry they throw in your face that they aren't yours.

Answer 2

I am a step mom and for me, that hardest part is having to asjust to someone else's parenting style. I raise my daughter in one way and my stepchildren's mother raises them very laid back and hand off. I have a hard time when they are with us because of that. But, it is hard to change a habit that is part of their lives. We basically had to tell them that the rules are different when they are here and we also try to be patient and understanding because their routines at one home are different then at our home. It is hard at times because I have a routine for my days and when the step kids comes, there is a new routine we have to follow. I don't mean to make it sound all bad though - it can be very rewarding. We have lots of fun and they make us smile and laugh a ton! Good luck.

Answer 3

Definitely dealing with the ex. I'm the type that I don't care what the rules are at your mothers house, when you're in my house you follow my rules. I treat my step-son no different then I treat my own two kids. And I'll discipline him no different either. Right now he's only 3 so I'm sure I'll run into some bumps in the road as he gets older.

Answer 4

well u cant do much to the child or anyhting

like disaplin u cant do
raising the child u may have alot of differences and arguments about it
where the childs mother/father i or both. depending if u are talking about adopting a child or if ur bf/gf has a kid and its not urs or what not you will have alot of differences and the kid will have issuses with how u feel also and all that stuff i grew up in a home with a step father so i know how it is but there are alot of things when it comes to that

Answer 5

learning where you fit in and what exactly your role entails...but I can not tell you the answer to this, because everyone is different...in my case the hardest thing is my step sons mother...she will NOT get over the fact that I am with the father of her child, even though we have been together for about a year nad half now.

Answer 6

I think the hardest thing for me was when the children are being raised by their mother much differently than I would raise my children. My expectations of their behaviour, manners, daily routine, etc.. were so much different than what they were used to at their mother's home. It causes alot of stress. One household is very structured, the other is very care free with no rules. It makes the transition between households very difficult for everyone. This is the most difficult thing for us.

Answer 7

I am a step-parent, and I have never had any problems. Both step-daughters love me and treat me like their mom. By the way, their mom is still alive....and her and I even get along. I think that what makes it so much easier for the kids.

Answer 8

The step parent cannot be the one who disciplines the child.
The goal is to in-force the rules and make sure they grow up to be decent human beings. In hope that they don't hate you for it.

Answer 9

Raising someone elses child..
Dealing with the X's
Agreeing on how to raise the child.

You might have ideas where as the biological parent may have totaly different ideas.

Answer 10

Having the "other mother" around to criticize & debate each & every thing to try to do with the children, unless of course it benefits the "other mother". In the meantime Dad is somewhere in between trying to make peace with the womwn in his life.

Answer 11

Dealing with the parent of the child! But you should always treat them how you'd like someone else to treat your children.