Recently, My boyfriend asked for time to figure out how he felt after two years of freindship and 9 months of living together, he agreed to see a couples councelor and we took total time apart when he relaized that he missed me, and now we have gone back to "dating" which is ok, but totally avoids the whole reason for the seperation, weather or not he is really willing to make a commitment to me. Should I just walk away, or should I stick it out? Im so confused and feel so lost and in limbo.
2006-06-26 07:15:37 · 11 answers · asked by Lalita!! 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I would end this relationship. I would bet his "break" involved another person.
2006-06-26 07:18:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make him talk about it. He is the one who imposed the trial seperation on you...don't let him off the hook so easily and let everything go back to normal when you are obviously still worrying about it.
Talk to him about what made him want that seperation, how he used that time to think about your relationship, and what he wants out of it now.
You NEED this communication or else you will always be asking yourself why he did that, and whether or not it will happen again.
2006-06-26 14:20:26 · answer #2 · answered by e_r_c_15 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I went the counseling route also. You need to let him know you are confused. The two of you need to talk about this. Many men are afraid of commitment. For me it was the other way around. If you love him and want this to work you need to tell him that along with telling him you are confused, lost and in limbo. Best of luck to you. I miss her so much in so many ways. I miss her face, her cooking, her perfume, taking care of things for her, her kiss, her touch, pleasing her, her riding me and so many other things. I have not given up because when things are good I am happier with her in my life than I have ever been in my life. Good luck!!
2006-06-26 14:24:32 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should leave, why should you stink around for his non mature act no one deserves that i say you need to move on cuz u can do better. If you really love him look into your heart and decide and if the love is strong enough then stick it out
2006-06-26 14:19:45 · answer #4 · answered by ♫♪Ms.J♥Virgo♣♠ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well at least try to talk it out if you really love him. But if you have doubts and you feel like your not that into him anymore than leave him and move on.
2006-06-26 14:21:52 · answer #5 · answered by Megan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow that sounds really tough, i've never been in a situation like that but i think you should try to talk to him (even tho u probably have) and ask him why his sudden unsureness, if he doesn't answer try talking to the counselor by yourself, maybe they can help you guys better when you are alone with him/her
2006-06-26 14:20:06 · answer #6 · answered by ...here in my garden of magic 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would leave him alone for 60 days and then see how you feel about him and maybe by leaving him alone he will start to realize how much he misses you and want to get back with you.
2006-06-26 14:20:46 · answer #7 · answered by the nice one 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
please don't be upsat this is the time to show nature that is should try u r level best to impress him or under him and his situations and show how best u r for him than any one else
but never think of liling him !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
hint: keep smilling to impress him
take care bayyyyyyyyyyyy
2006-06-26 14:27:51 · answer #8 · answered by raja s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
totaly depends on your heart, If you care for him and really think it might work stick it out
if not then your wasting your time
2006-06-26 14:19:30 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah I would say it's time to find someone else then
2006-06-26 14:23:25 · answer #10 · answered by Julie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋