getting married to someone in the military?

Question

ok this ? is for my sis. she has been with a guy for awhile now, well he is in the army and they stationed him in s.keroa, and he ask her to marry him. is he allowed to do that now? or will they make them wait? and if so will they allow her to move to s. keroa, and if yes how long do you think the process to do it all will be, and will they allow them to live off base? over all will the army have any problems with them gettin married, she is really worried that they are not going to let them do it,, any advice will help.. thanks

Answer 1

Well I went through the same things so I can tell you EXACTLY what she have to expect to happen. He is already in the army and at his duty station, which mean that she is NOT in his orders. They can get married but they are NOT going to move her or the kids (if any) because they weren't married BEFORE he got the orders. So as far as the military is concerned, the marriage mean NOTHING. After he comes back home for good or get orders to be stationed somewhere else then its a process (About 2-3weeks) (maybe shorter or longer) to get in the DoD system) he have to go through to get his wife and the kids (if any) in the system so that they can be included in his orders next time. My husband is in the Marines and he got orders to Japan. We got married after he received his orders so i had to wait until his two year were up (which will be next month) before me and our child were included in his orders. So from next month on out me and our daughter will be able to travel with him where-ever he goes....if I can answer any more questions just let me know, cause I KNOW 1st hand!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! As far as housing goes once he is stationed at another base or whateva they an get on base housing (if available) if not he can get BHA (Basic Housing Allowance)...which will pay for them to live in civilian housing off-base. So they can get married and YES it can work out even though there is a HIGH divorce rate for the military..it all depends on them if they willing to make it work...(Its hard at times though but they just have to be strong)!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 2

The Army won't have any problems with them getting married. They may be required to do some pre-marital counseling though. Before they do decide to tie the know, they need to find out if she would be eligible to live with him in S.Korea at all. Some duty stations do not allow families AT ALL, others do. Next, if they do allow families, it will be tricky. While the MarineSpouse who answered before was PARTLY correct, she would be able to move to S. Korea. HOWEVER it would be at their own expense. The military will NOT pay for her to move out there and they probably will not pay for her to move FROM S.Korea to his next duty station. If she stays in the USA now they will pay for her to move to the next duty station from there. As far as living off base, if that is an option in the area then YES they will be allowed to do so. Though being overseas, housing on base is typically more convienient. The process of getting married, filing all the paperwork, getting her into the DEERS system (it's a network system of all military dependents) Getting an ID card etc etc will take some time. Especially since her Soldier is over seas and won't be able to do it himself. If they wait until he's back in the USA things will be SO much easier on both of them, not to mention cheaper than her moving to S Korea!

Answer 3

probably should be fine, if the base has a family policy - it will allow her and children to live on the base in provided housing. Although not all bases allow this, and in some cases your sister will only have visitation rights at various points during the year where she can visit her husband. However soldiers are regularly relieved of duty to go back home and to rest before being called back on duty. If he's stationed in South Korea, chances are good that she'll be able to live there because theirs no real threat and S.Korea is quite friendly with the US.

Answer 4

They can get married, but logistically it is a nightmare. Filling out forms, getting more money from the military, base housing, a stipend for off housing living. What do they want to do. Does she want to move around with him? Like changing jobs, friends? It is a lot. that is why military people have a high rate of divorce and cheating. Just telling you the facts. Be careful

Answer 5

They won't do anything to help until after they get married. So either he comes home or she goes to s. Korea. He needs to turn in their marriage license so they can get started on the paper work for base housing. Depending on her husbands rank it could take no time or some months before they could live together in base housing. You have to be approved to live off base so I would suggest they get married in the states and wait til base housing is available. She will start receiving benefits for living off base though. It goes by the area you live in. They will basically be paying her rent in the states until they can get housing together.

I wish them well!

Answer 6

you'll get married through a protection rigidity chaplain on a base yet you'll have an same delays and prepared as any civilian church. contact the bottom Chaplain and ask what dates are open and also what his criteria are. at the same time as my son were given married the bottom Chaplain required the couple to attend 6 instructions of pre-marriage counseling previously he would carry out the ceremony. it really is generic for the Chaplains to have criteria like that.

Answer 7

They can get married, you can marry whenever you want. She will not be allowed to move to Korea, it is a dependent restricted tour. Trust me, she wouldn't want to go to Korea anyways. The Army cannot tell you who to marry and when to do it. He can come home and midtour leave and do it. Stop worrying and good luck.

Answer 8

She won't be allowed to go to Korea... that place has been one short fuse away fron Korea 2 for the past 53 years. They don't want any dependents over there when it all blows up (very bad publicity).

Answer 9

the army can't stop them from getting married , as long as he comes home on leave and they get married in a legal setting ( city hall ) now about her moving to s.korea is a different story.
The only way she can accompany him there is if he is stationed in Seoul, any other dutystation is considered too dangerous.

Answer 10

Depending on what rank he is depends on whether or not he will have to get permission to get married. Maybe they should talk to the base chaplain or family services.