How do you handle a 4-5 year old who will not listen to anything, in matter of fact she will do the oppisite o

Answer 1

A little discipline??

We always put ours in time out. We also don't mind a good old fashioned spanking either. We take our 5 year olds nintendo and put it in time out when he is being unreasonable. This seems to make him really upset. Whichever method you use, be consistent. I find that my two walk all over me when I start making threats and not following through. So they get me back on track every now and again.

Something we do for good behavior is a "Star Jar"
When they do something good they get a ball in their jar. But, if they do something bad they have to take the ball out (they hate this). When the jar is full, I take them to the dollar store and let them purchase something for a dollar.

Answer 2

Write down some household rules and hang them up for her to see. It doesn't matter if she can read it matters that they are on display. Keep to those rules no matter where you are, what you are doing. The problem most people have are that they don't stick to the rules or that the rules change depending on the situation. I don't disapprove of spankings but most the time it is anger release for the parent, and the child still didn't do what she was asked. Give chores and check to make sure that they are done. Give praise went she does good and correct her and have her repeat the task until it's done right. Stay firm and positive telling yourself it's in the best interest of your child. My children always knew what was expected and we had a great relationship. Remember this saying to this day it hangs on my fridge for future generation to see (Discipline must be maintain or the empior will fall) My grandchildren 16 and 12 still know this saying and it still makes them laugh.

Answer 3

Oh boy can I relate! Well, the first thing you have to not do is fight or argue with her. You cannot reason with a child. (And as an adult, your vote is the winning one, anyway!) Then you set down clear rules. Decide on a punishment and follow thru consistently EVERY SINGLE TIME! Without fail! She has to know that you mean business every time. My son would actually ask what the punishment was for an offense and think about whether he was wiling to pay the price! If he was, he would do the offending thing right in front of me! And when he did, he got the expected punishment. That taught me that time outs and taking things away wasn't going to get it! I had to get really creative. I had to find things to do that WOULD bother him. It's different for every child, obviously. But once I found things that got to him and applied the discipline every time, I started getting compliance. I also narrowed down his choices. Don't ask open ended questions unless you are prepared to go with the answers. IE: don't ask her what she wants to wear, ask her out of these 2 things, what do you want to wear? That's a simplification, but you get the idea. You are the adult and you are the one who gets to do the deciding!

Answer 4

My daughter was the same way. We tried to put her in time out but she didn't care, she would get up and play eventually, before time out was up. We would take things away but she would hand them over as if she didn't care that she would never get to play with them again. We tried everything in the book. Finally we had to resort to what our parents did though we hated and dreaded it. It also says it in the bible "Spare the rod spoil the child......." we've all heard it before. But the truth is, as soon as we started spanking her she started listening. Now we don't even have to spank anymore, only threaten and she listens to us. It's worth a try. I really hate doing it but being a parent isn't all about fun and games. Good Luck!

Answer 5

Do you spank?? Maybe you should. Remember, there is a difference in "spanking" and "beating" Power struggles with small children are pointless. Tell the child once, don't keep telling them without consequenses, this just trains them not to listen the first time. I have three wonderful children, now all young adults. I still only tell them once.

Answer 6

repeat discapline bust her butt and make her sit in a corner (they say a minute for every year of age) so 5 min corner time out
If u say ur gonna give her a whoopin give it too her the worst thing is to say it and not do it kids will run all over you

Answer 7

Start by taking away things you know that they like. This get the attention of my kids very quickly.

Answer 8

I would highly recommend discipline. Consistent discipline. They have to know that they must respect you.

Answer 9

i do time out, spanking, and taking things away but if u find something else let me know lol

Answer 10

you have to find out what she wants more than anything else - go to the park, ice cream, new toy - and then get her to understand that she has to behave to get it.