2006-06-26 07:10:42 · 50 answers · asked by emily s 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
run...fast.
2006-06-26 07:12:41 · answer #1 · answered by clarabel_s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
been there! think long and hard about just exactly what it is that you love soooo much about this guy.... what could possibly be so great about him that you would endure physical abuse from him.. how long have you been with him? Is he hitting you on a daily basis? does he tell you he loves you? does he tell you it's your fault that he hits you? example: "if you wouldn't do this or that to make me so angry I wouldn't have to hit/hurt you!" does he leave marks and bruises on you? is he more likely to hit you where bruises won't be seen? I know from experience that if he hits you once he will hit you again, it won't stop until you decide that you deserve so much better than hits and bruises, and you do ! NO ONE HAS THE RIGHT TO HIT YOU!!! end it now, while you still can... the next time he hits you you could be taking a ride in an ambulance. I did. Looking in a mirror at my battered, bruised and stitched up face was a huge wake up call. don't let it get that far out of hand.... best of luck....
2006-06-26 07:44:18 · answer #2 · answered by lady T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
leave. It will only get worse. Been there done that. Trust me on this. I spent 9 months in a hospital because the one I loved so much got messed up big time one night. I don't know what I said that ticked him off. Next thing I know he starts hitting me. Really hitting me, then he throws me down 13 cement steps, kicks me, throws me up against a couple of walls. I black out at that time, I guess that I am lucky because he put my head through a coke machine and though me in a swiming pool to drown. Told the cops that I was drunk.
Neighbor told the cops what really happened. I didn't have to press charges becuase the beating was so bad. He was in prison when I got out.
I started over, got help and have never looked back except to help. Get away, get help for you to feel good about you. You might feel that you don't need it but look at yourself and ask why are you staying with him? Run don't walk.
2006-06-26 07:19:47 · answer #3 · answered by Ann E 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave him. If he's hitting you now, it's not going to stop later. No matter how much you love him - no relationship is worth physical harm.
I know you love him and leaving him is hard - but the longer you are with him the worse it will be and the harder it will be to leave him. Imagine if the two of you have children! Would you want him to hit your children too?
Here are some online resources that can help you:
http://teenadvice.about.com/library/weekly/aa062002a.htm
2006-06-26 07:14:46 · answer #4 · answered by Tamborine 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'll say that i would leave....but the truth is i dunno what i would do....i want to believe that i would leave, but you know i was in a relationship in which my bf was psychologically abusive and i didnt leave him right away....it took me a looooog time. So i totally understand why u are asking this, some people think its stupid to ask, but it's not as easy as it sounds.
Be strong....leave him....you deserve better than someone that treats you that way. It will probably be hard but once you are free of him you'll be happy and im sure you'll find someone who is really worth it....good luck and God bless!
2006-06-26 07:18:22 · answer #5 · answered by sarah_29 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump him dump him dump him! Someone violent can always go from a little violent to a lot violent quickly. I was married to a guy who would hit me every now and then, but I thought he'd never REALLY hurt me, until one day, out of the blue, he tried to kill me and I almost died. so, you love him. Love yourself more, and walk away. Ask your family and friends to help you and support you in this decision. Believe me, your life could depend on this very decision.
2006-06-26 07:17:44 · answer #6 · answered by rebecca 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would KNOW that no human being, especailly MYSELF should allow such disrepect. I know it can be very very hard to leave someone whom you love greatly, but YOU have to come first! if you're in danger and you can't make him stop, you have to leave him or get him to stop (and that probalby requires legal action and the police, which he will resent you and leave you anyway). NO ONE SHOULD GET HIT FROM THEIR LOVER, HE DOENS"T LOVE YOU if he's HITTING YOU.
By a man hitting a woman is a HUGE sign that he is mentally weak and very insecure. you can do MUCH better! Don't be afraid to leave!
2006-06-26 07:15:03 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What's love got to do with it... If he's hitting on u it's best for u to leave now... Cause L8er might be too L8... Round here where i stay people getting killed because of da word LOVE...... If he loves u and u love him why let him hit on u??? LOVE ain't worth all dat pain.. I'm sorry honey... I'll say that u're stupid fa puttin up with it!!!
2006-06-26 07:17:38 · answer #8 · answered by shanasis m 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
LEAVE HIM NOW!!!! never, ever let anyone physically, mentally or emotionally abuse you...second, seek counseling and find out why you would love someone who treats you so badly...i am assuming you are modeling the situation you grew up with, but you need to seek professional help
2006-06-26 07:12:43 · answer #9 · answered by twentythree 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say to myself - "Love does not mean having to tolerate physical abuse," then accept the fact that no amount of love on my part would change such a fatal flaw in someone, and then I would leave.
2006-06-26 07:22:53 · answer #10 · answered by Curious1usa 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you love him honey but he can't love you if he hits you. I went through the same thing and it is hard but you can move on I did. There is no excuse for anyone to be hit. Good luck and stay safe
2006-06-26 07:13:48 · answer #11 · answered by lynnzhere7777 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋