I'm a working mom, I work full time from 8-4 and when I get home I'm already tired. I try to keep up with my 9 month old, and usually I do. I start losing patience at night, especially when I'm very sleepy and he doesn't wanna go to sleep.
I don't yell at him, but I talk stronger. For example I say with a strong voice "Damian go to sleep now baby, mommy is tired". Sometimes he just laughs at me thinking I'm playing, sometimes he stays serious.
But, the next day I feel SO guilty. I don't give him enough time because I work, and then I talk strong to him!! What kind of person am I? :( And I can't quit my job because we need the money.
Anyone else with the same problem? Any other working moms? How do you deal with this sort of issue?
2006-06-26 07:04:30 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Yeah, we co-sleep :)
2006-06-26 07:13:54 · update #1
Oh, my do I feel your pain! I also am a working mom - of a two year old. I worked until the day I went into labor and then I had to return to work 6 weeks after my daughter was born. I daily struggle with the guilt of being a working mom. I try to make sure that whatever can wait gets put to the side so I have more time with my daughter when I am home. What I mean is, if the dishes can wait or the vacuuming can wait, I don't do it so I can be with her more. It is a constant stuggle because children need so much from us and we are so worn out by the end of the day. There is no easy fix for this. Try to remind yourself that you are working so that your son can have a good life. Also remind yourself that research has shown that it is quality time and not quantity of time that matters. Give yourself a little break too because your son will soon sleep better for you. That helped my patience and energy level when my daughter started to sleep more. Hang in there and know that you are not alone. There are lots of us working moms out there who know what you are going through! Good luck!
2006-06-26 07:12:46 · answer #1 · answered by pammy_6201 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have to make sure the baby doesn't get hyper or overstimulated when you get home from work. Most people get home and are so happy to see their babies that they start intense play. Instead, you have to speak in a soft voice and keep everything quiet and calm so that the baby knows it's time to start winding down. Routine helps. Dinner, bath, story, sleep.
Save intense play time for when you get up in the mornings before work when it is time to wake up and start the day.
Have you thought of trying co-sleeping? It's hard to feel guilty about going to work if you sleep beside your baby.
2006-06-26 07:10:05 · answer #2 · answered by baggyk 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah, I have two grown children, but my little one is 7. When I get home I am stressed from the job, I hate to do the homework with her. I have no patience, I will be trying to cook, & yell. But then I remember, I only see her from 5:30- 8:30 at night before bed, so make the most of it.
2006-06-26 07:09:48 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was a single mom working 12 hour swing shifts when my girls were younger. I too went through a guilt phase , but he knows you love him. 9 months is still young for him to fully understand everything. In time it will get easier. He will become more independent and it will ease up.
2006-06-26 07:12:30 · answer #4 · answered by Cynthia W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-15 07:02:37 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have the same thing and i'm a stay at home mom..can the father help alittle?
2006-06-26 07:20:34 · answer #6 · answered by sjeboyce 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋