My boyfriends mother is tired. She can't put up with her anymore. She runs away every chance she gets, she isn't appreciative, she started sleeping around at age 11, she comes home when it is convenient for her to get presents, Christmas, birthday, and skips schhool constantly. When she is gone, she sgone for weeks, and no matter what she can't be found. Everytime she runs, his mom calls the police, but she can't do it anymore. This last time she ran away, his mom has had enough, and is ready to let her go. This isn't her daughter, it sher grandaughter. She doens't think she can do anything for her anymore. I don't know what to tell my boyfriends mom anymore. She's tried so hard. Is it time to let go, since she doens't have custody of her grandaughter?
2006-06-26 07:01:20 · 4 answers · asked by shawny4me 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Shes been to therapy, and shes been sent to counseling. It doens't work. Its a joke to her. And his mom can't do anything because she doesn't have custody of her. Shes not her legal guardian.
2006-06-26 07:12:37 · update #1
The child is 14. The grandmother had to raise her because her sons wife dumped her with her. I guess a life of drugs, sex, and probably another unwanted pregnancy is a life that suits a 14 year old. Bravo. And, though its none of your fu*king business, yes I have a ring. And yes, we have a date. I think it is YOU who is playing grownup and hiding behind cute words and meaningless phrases.
2006-06-26 07:41:03 · update #2
time to let go and just tell he if she needs anything come home
2006-06-26 07:07:36 · answer #1 · answered by buzy_bee_21 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You didn't say how old the problem child is, obviously over 11 and under 18, I would suspect. You act as if the granny is an angel. As I see it she raised a daughter that dumped a kid on her (granny didn't do to well raising that one) and wasn't any more successful with the grandchild. Why would you expect such a kid to be well behaved? The daughter is just like the mom as far as I can see (minus a kid with no dad) The girl can take care of herself, it may not be the "Paris Hilton" life but it seems to suit her. Leave her be. There is no one in this family that can set her straight. (So I hear you are "engaged" is it true? Do you have a ring and a date? If not honey, I hate to tell you .. your not engaged, your just playing at being a grown-up.)
2006-06-26 14:34:02 · answer #2 · answered by lily 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She needs to call the local juvenile detention center or social services because she is underage she can be reported as a runaway right away. Eventually, the police will see to it that she is taken to a juvenile detention center......where she is strip searched, locked in a small room, taken out only for therapy etc.
Has been known to help.........to scare them.
She does need counseling, but as you say she is not willing to work on herself. Her grandmother needs to ask social services and the police what steps she can take to get the child help.....instead of continually calling them whenever she decides to get mad over having to follow the rules etc.
2006-06-26 17:21:30 · answer #3 · answered by heartwhisperer2000 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Runaways need psychiatric help. I suggest sending her to a counselor or mental hospital. This is a serious problem and should be treated like one.
2006-06-26 14:08:09 · answer #4 · answered by DJ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋