Am I wrong to keep my children away from a in-law family whom there is a constant betrayal with me?
2006-06-26 07:00:36 · 12 answers · asked by Sippy 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
of course not!! you are a mother living in AMERICA and you have the right to do whatever you think is best. i mean, hello?! they are your children! but you should at least call the inlaws and let them talk to the kids, but you do not have to visit them or come into phyiscal contact with them, if they really are that bad. good luck
2006-06-26 07:09:07 · answer #1 · answered by **rachelle** 2 · 2⤊ 2⤋
I'm not sure what you mean by "constant betrayal." But phrases like that usually mean something more like "petty grudge," and it's not just them, it's you.
Your children have a right to have a relationship with their family. The only reason to ever keep them away from a relative is if you feel the children would not be safe, for instance, if the family member is an alcoholic, or a molester.
It is your job as a parent to keep your judgments about other people to yourself and let your children develop as individuals. It is very important for them to have a relationship with their extended family. Even if they eventually decide to end that relationship when they are older, at least they will have come to that on their own, and you won't be the bad guy.
2006-06-26 07:23:03 · answer #2 · answered by smurfette 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO they are your children and you have every right to not let anyone undermine your authority with them. If they can not do as you ask then they do not really want or care for your children. in addition it is never wrong for parents to limit expose to influences that go against the ideas or guidlines that they set forth in raising the children they are responsible for.
2006-06-26 07:12:20 · answer #3 · answered by hate dept 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to do what is best for your family. If it means keeping them away from the in-laws, you have to do that too. Just because they are related to your husband doesn't mean you have to put up with their behavior no matter what.
2006-06-26 07:08:30 · answer #4 · answered by jumpingrightin 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is a very touchy subject. It is best not to pass on your grudges to your children. And it is best to tell the person whom you are outraged with about how you truly feel about them.
2006-06-26 07:09:59 · answer #5 · answered by Doclester 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say no. You have to protect your children, and if they are betraying you, what will they do to your children? You have to think of them first.
2006-06-26 07:06:20 · answer #6 · answered by Wookie on Water 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, because it is still their family. regardless of your grudges. however, you can limit their time with the in-laws, and you can supervise if you feel its it necessary.
2006-06-26 07:03:07 · answer #7 · answered by Mystic 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not at all, your child can sense it anyway, just tell the child the truth, they need to know how some people are, some are just pure ignorant and rude
2006-06-26 07:15:28 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have problems with my mother in law. but my girls keep visiting her as usual. i never told them to stop seeing or loving her. she is their grandma even if i dont like her at ALL........
2006-06-26 07:06:17 · answer #9 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They don't like you then it is difficult to see why they would like your kids. I would not have done any different. I wouldn't thrust them.
2006-06-26 07:06:55 · answer #10 · answered by EIliot 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋