I believe everytime u r in a relationship u give a piece of ur heart, by the time u decide on who will be ur soulmate, you only have a tiny amount left to give. i just think there is a better way, smarter way, much less hurtful.
i'd like to see your ideas.
this is a big issue especially why we have such a high divorce rate in all of history.
Blessings.
2006-06-26 06:34:05 · 11 answers · asked by dreamingsome 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
upon reading, i see people automaticly thought i
was talking about myself.
No.
I am happily married for 5yrs now.
I am just wondering about how people deal with this type of situation.
2006-06-27 07:23:43 · update #1
Sorry everyone, but all the answers i got so far are just not what im looking for.
2006-06-28 08:53:57 · update #2
I disagree with your analogy...your love should be never ending, those who choose to limit what they can offer because they are afraid the heart ache may be unbearable are cheating themselves out of receiving an equal amount of love in return...I can understand what your saying if you give and give and give with nothing in return, but that's just wrong choices, and only you can be blamed for that....One must know themselves well enough to recognize and limit their choices to those who can full fill their expectations, thus live happily ever after, I've come very close...and look forward to soon meeting someone more suitable...which could be thee person to complete my life...I choose to be patient and choose wisely...blessings to you.
2006-06-26 06:50:39 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I look back at my failed relationships and don't fret.
In each relationship, there were both good and bad things in each person. I learned what I valued in that person and what was destructive. So when it came time to find my "Mr. Right", my heart knew what I was looking for.
Kind of like going in a restaurant and ordering everything on the menu. You can try each one, realize what dishes you like, what dishes you didn't like and such. And perhaps, if you were discerning enough, you could even pick a few positive things about the dishes you didn't like but like a component. (Like I didn't like the Mango Salsa but the cracked pepper in it was delightful).
I don't believe that you "give away" a part of yourself. Love is infinite. I have three children and love all of them with so much love it's amazing. I didn't "use up" all my love on the first child.
Love is multiplied, not divided.
EVen the bad relationships can having something positive. Like I can look at one and say "He wasn't Mr. Right but he gave me a sense of playfulness. Or he gave me a sense of how I want to be treated as a woman. Or he introduced me to this particular artist."
I think the reason that we have such a high divorce rate is that people don't go into a marriage with the "until death do us part" part. They just are in a relationship and think it's the natural progression and society doesn't validate their relationship unless they are married. I also think that people don't value the differences between men and women. Come on! THey are funny!
2006-06-26 13:47:30 · answer #2 · answered by iam1funnychick 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think dating is a practice drive to when you finally decide on the right person. it's like buying a car, you want to test drive a couple before you buy one, instead of just buying the first car you see. Ya Some relationships are very hurtful but in the end you learn so much and when you move on to the right person you will know what to do and what not to do and you will find a great person. I don't agree with when you find your soul-mate you only have a tiny bit of love left to give, I believe that you will have even more because all the things that you have gone through that have given you knowledge and appreciation at the end.
2006-06-26 13:44:46 · answer #3 · answered by kimber g 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people dont like to just try there love on ojne guy.. and then marry the person.. and then sum ppl just have a relationship with one guy and then they marry the perosn.. the 2nd person is the one thats most likely to nd up divorced sooo i think its a good thing when ppl go thru may relationships to find the right one.
2006-06-26 13:39:43 · answer #4 · answered by crazychick786 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you do give a piece of your heart in every relationship. But when you get over it, you take it back and give it to someone else if you find him/her.
As far as the hurtful part is concerned, I believe that God wants us to meet a few wrong people first, so that when we meet the right "one" we'll know how much to appreciate.
2006-06-26 13:40:34 · answer #5 · answered by oops1388 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because it is through experiences that we grow and learn..as we go through all these relationships we also see who we are in terms of how we deal with people, how we carry a relationship among many others..see life is a continuous process of learning and loving..
2006-06-26 13:39:19 · answer #6 · answered by warrior is a child 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion its because they don't learn from their mistakes. Relationships fail because of a reason. That reason may be the other person or you. So just analyze what did work, work didn't work, and what you need to work on.
2006-06-26 13:38:45 · answer #7 · answered by pudgie39759 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because you have to shop around until you find the right one and when you ind that right one he'll be the one to heal your heart and build it back to the way it was
2006-06-26 13:38:55 · answer #8 · answered by ♥*♥Bahamian Gal♥*♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you study for ur test right?? so u got the answer.. pratice for the ultimate one
2006-06-26 13:37:02 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
its a part of life
2006-06-26 13:37:31 · answer #10 · answered by omarionsgirl1983 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋