I have a really big family and kinda feel squished by all my siblings so Im starting to branch off.
2006-06-26 06:33:38 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
If you are in a large family, I think you are forced to develop an indpendent streak, since no one will be watching out for you better than yourself. However, that does not mean you can decide it is ok to drink, do drugs, have sex, and all those other things older guys are trying to talk you into doing. Be independent of peer pressure, too.
2006-06-26 06:38:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
in de pen dent (check the spelling)- not subject to the control of others, free; self-supporting.
Is that you?
Developing your own personality and making choices, does not mean independents. Unless you are saying independent but meaning defiant. And with lots of siblings that is one thing your parent don't need. Cooperation is the key in a large family.
You will not know how much your parents love you until you have your first child. They may get tied up in the crowd, but they love you with all their soul . And you owe them respect even when you don't think so.
Get yourself a job, pay your rent, car payments, utilities, food bill, entertainment, insurance, etc and then you are independent and you will still need you parents love and advise.
Learn from others mistakes, because you simply don't have the time to make them all yourself.
2006-06-26 14:33:30 · answer #2 · answered by betterhealth@flash.net 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems that you are always feeling trapped by all your sibling butting into your business and you need some privacy, right? So now you are trying to go away from them, right? I understand how you feel. I was the same way when I was 13 when my siblings were always butting into my business and I had to fight hard to go away from them.
Unfortunately, you are too young to become independent. You have to be 18 before you can move out. But you can learn to be independent by not following their footsteps. Learn to think for yourself and not let your siblings speak or decide for you. Try to be yourself. Ask yourself... if your siblings didn't exist, what do you do? Try to guide yourself and not let your siblings guide you. It is very bad to let that happen.
2006-06-26 13:40:30 · answer #3 · answered by youngwoman 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My mother grew up as one of the middle children in a family of 11 kids. She has often said that she felt they barely noticed she was there. She wouldn't swim because she said she was afraid if she started to drown, no one would notice. Isn't that sad? She's a very shy person so I don't think she pushed enough to get some positive attention.
I guess it is normal for you to feel the way you are feeling. Don't give up on your family though. Ask your parents for some one on one time. This is an important stage in your life and you need to try to stay in good communication with your parents about what's going on.
2006-06-26 13:46:08 · answer #4 · answered by CleverGal 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats probably a good idea depending on how much Independence you seek.
Planning for your future,going and getting a bank account things of that nature are ok but breaking rules your family sets such as bedtimes and time out with your friends is not.Life is short so enjoy it while you can especially with family.
2006-06-26 13:39:39 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey im 13 too, and guess what i am REALLY independant. let me give you some insight into my life, and im not making this up! i promise....i am gonna be going to Berklee College of Music next school year, and i am hoping to get my degree and finish a bunch of things b4 i really need too. Why? cuz i have the same sibling problem...im not the oldest, or the youngest, and yah im starting to branch off, and i have asked this question b4 too, and hey have fun! lol
2006-06-26 13:39:25 · answer #6 · answered by V 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're not independent until you can provide for yourself with a job, a home and transportation without anyone helping you. At 13, that's nearly impossible. Enjoy your family while you are all together. Soon you'll all be grown and gone and stop whining!
2006-06-26 13:49:29 · answer #7 · answered by Sassy OLD Broad 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm 14 and i have a very large family and i have been known to leave and not come back for a few days. its really normal for teens to become independant and want to be yourself and not be like someones big or little sibling.
2006-06-26 14:17:12 · answer #8 · answered by TJ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good for you. Girls mature faster than boys by a lot starting at your age. When I was 13 feeling like I was older than the 16 year old boys and it gets more that way as you get older.
2006-06-26 13:38:09 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can branch. But Independent isn't the word. Antisocial with your family is the word. Your parents still feed you.
2006-06-26 13:38:06 · answer #10 · answered by murph_ltt 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋