Im only 16 and he wants me to do it now, but i want to wait till after High School which is in a year. What should i do?
2006-06-26 06:30:59 · 162 answers · asked by jagwagstar13 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
go ahead and give it up
2006-06-26 06:31:33 · answer #1 · answered by Melissa C 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Personally I think you should wait. I think if you let him pressure you and give him your virginity before you are ready you will regret it. I'm not saying tio wait the whole year if you don't want to, but just wait until you are completely ready. Sex is a complicated thing that can muck up high school... especially if you and your bf were to break up after you do it and he tells everyone in school about it.
2006-06-29 17:34:09 · answer #2 · answered by Julie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DON'T!!!
If he loves you enough he should let you choose. Don't give in just cause he wants you to. If he threatens to break-up then obviously he doesn't love you enough. Make sure you luv him and he loves you, and make sure he's the right guy. Also your parents won't be very happy most likely! You should wait till after high school, your only 16 anyway if something happens you could miss your graduation...don't make a mistake like that you will regret it for life.
2006-06-26 06:41:31 · answer #3 · answered by Got_a_question? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait until your ready and if he waits he's a good guy. Once you have sex there is no going back. If you wait one year you may even realize you still don't want to and may want to wait longer. It is your body and your decision. Of course he wants to do it now that's how most guys i know are but, i hope or it seems, most women were blessed with a bit more self control than men. Treat your body has a temple and think to yourself; If I share myself with someone it will be under my terms and if they don't like I will find someone who will.
You are the one who has to live with the decisions you make for the rest of your life and if you chose to wait you will always remember that you did what you wanted and not what someone else wanted when it came to your body.
2006-06-26 06:41:25 · answer #4 · answered by mia 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait
2006-06-26 06:33:00 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't matter how old you are sweetie. It matters how you feel about it. I will tell you all young high school boys are horny as hell. If he pressures you and you don't feel it's right, don't give it up. I know you'll probably do it anyway, because he'll make you feel stupid if you don't, which is wrong, but I promise you he's gonna love you, and leave you. He's too young to settle down. If it's something you don't mind doing, just go ahead, it's not like super fantastic or anything. It feels normal to lose it. But be sure you don't mistake it for him loving you, because that's when you'll get hurt. Guys know how to separate sex and love. They don't mean the same thing to us. He just wants sex. He's horny like a toad. my best advice, never let him pressure you into something you don't want to. That's actually a form of rape.
2006-06-26 06:34:59 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
WOW!
I was where you are standing not that long ago, altho you might see it as a freaky spot to be, sex isnt that bad, it has its ups and downs.. iv been thru that but dont have sex wit your bf unless your ready, no one should tell you to put a time on something or an age, do what you feel is best.. and dont think everyone is going to think your nasty or a slut(unless you sleep around) i first had sex at 14 with my boyfriend at the time he was 20(sounds odd but i was tuning 15 in a few days : } ) So take your time and if your boyfriend is pushing you to have sex.. LEAVE HIM .. f he really liked you or loved you he wouldnt push you to do things like that! Take care hun!
xoxo-Jaimie
2006-06-26 08:33:32 · answer #7 · answered by KekeBear 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait..."adult-life" will be here before you know it..enjoy yourself while you can.
Instead of putting a date like "after high school" on it. Wait till you have your life together. Yours hasn't even gotten started good yet. But only you know when you are ready. Don't be pressured into this decision. The outcome could cost you for the rest of your life.
2006-06-26 06:35:20 · answer #8 · answered by Rabbit Ritto 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Dont do it because he wants you to do it. Do it if you feel ready and are absolutely certain that he is the right guy. In 20 years time how do you want to feel about your first time, do you want it to look back and realise you should have waited for someone you knew better, or what? Your boyfriend is like most guys and is after one thing. He shouldnt be presurring you, and he shouldnt want to have sex with you just because he is being presurred by his friends. Its a very special experience and you want to look back on it and smile, not feel ashamed. It is a very important decision, take your time to decide, whats the hurry.
2006-06-26 07:44:10 · answer #9 · answered by Mezee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't rush in to anything if you are not sure and he is willing to wait, wait it will mean so much more to you. I was a virgin untill I was 19 years old and trust me I thought I was with the guy I was going to marry. We were toghter 5 years and in the fourth year we had sex. Then we split up and I regret have sex with him at all. I wanted to wait until I was married but everyone picked on me and I rushed into with him. Just wait and take your time. If he is not willing to wait then he is not worth your time and does not respect you at all. Jamie
2006-06-26 06:37:19 · answer #10 · answered by Jamie B 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You should wait , trust me if you give in and you dont really want to you will regret it. Changes are that you wont even be together after high school because you start going your own way with colleges , work, and metting new people. So why would you want to give it up when you dont want to .
2006-06-26 06:34:59 · answer #11 · answered by camaroconvertible 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋